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irisblue

(36,509 posts)
Sun Nov 2, 2025, 09:28 PM Sunday

I've been thinking about songs to play at my funeral & as a Femme Dyke

A 100% chance I will not hear them, but as a femme dyke I want a woman singing Willie Nelson only version of To All the Girls I've Loved Before






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I've been thinking about songs to play at my funeral & as a Femme Dyke (Original Post) irisblue Sunday OP
I have a Dr appt tomorrow, they always ask about end of life choices. irisblue Sunday #1
Great idea! ShazzieB Sunday #2
I will be asking, on reddit on some one, to do this irisblue Sunday #3
It's a long way there. Little river band chouchou Sunday #4
Which song? irisblue Sunday #5
"It's A Long Way There" Lyrics jxla Sunday #6
Thanks for that jxla chouchou Sunday #8
I'm leaning to the song by the singer formerly known as Cat Stevens, Morning is Breaking. I love morning, I have ShazamIam Sunday #7
This one is pretty joyful Bobstandard Sunday #9
Haley Bonar - Quiet Breathing is my favorite. But there probably won't be a funeral for me. I'm planning to be... littlemissmartypants Sunday #10
I'm planning my funeral including the music TlalocW Monday #11
Tumbling tumbleweeds for me. cbabe Monday #12
Romanovsky and Phillips had some fantastic songs dickthegrouch Monday #13
As a church organist oberle Monday #14
My choice is a bit on the nose, but... OldBaldy1701E Wednesday #15
I'm For the Formal, So I'll Likely Have.... ColoringFool Wednesday #16
"You Are Not Alone" Seinan Sensei Thursday #17

irisblue

(36,509 posts)
1. I have a Dr appt tomorrow, they always ask about end of life choices.
Sun Nov 2, 2025, 09:33 PM
Sunday

I will tell Dr Dave to put the song in the file...just in case.


jxla

(252 posts)
6. "It's A Long Way There" Lyrics
Sun Nov 2, 2025, 10:47 PM
Sunday
https://www.musixmatch.com/lyrics/Little-River-Band/Long-Way-There

Lyrics of Long Way There by Little River Band

verse
People on their own are getting nowhere
I am on the road to see
If anything is anywhere and waiting, just for me
Every night I walk around the city
Seems like I′ll never know
That feeling of being together when I go
It's a long way there, a long way to where I′m going
It's a long way there, it's a long way to where I′m going
Hey everybody, don′t you feel that there's something
But you know in a moment it is gone
I live for the day when I can hear people saying
That they know, and they care for everyone
But I feel like I′ve been here for the whole of my life
Never knowing home (never knowing home)
It's a long, long way
It′s a long, long, long way there
I'm gonna keep on tryin′
I'm gonna keep on tryin', yeah
Keep on tryin′
I′m gonna keep on tryin', ah
Been away from home for such a long time
And got to know this town
But I don′t seem to matter much to anyone, who's around
Is there anybody around?
Every night I walk around the city
Seems like I′ll never know
The feeling of being together when I go
And it's a long way there, it′s a long way to where I'm going
And it's a long way there, it′s a long way to where I′m going
It's such a long way
Everybody knows it′s a long way there
Everybody knows it's a long way there
I know, I know it′s such a long, long way
Travelling around is gonna get me down I know, I know
It's such a long, long way
It′s such a long way there
outro
Hey everybody, yeah
Don't you feel that there's something? (Feel it, feel it)
Hey everybody, yeah
Now don′t you feel that there′s something in the air tonight
It's such a long, long, long way to go
Writer(s): Graeham George Goble

ShazamIam

(2,967 posts)
7. I'm leaning to the song by the singer formerly known as Cat Stevens, Morning is Breaking. I love morning, I have
Sun Nov 2, 2025, 11:04 PM
Sunday

loved morning all my life. When I have stayed up too late and or partied too hard I am angry that I wake up late and miss the early morning.
6:00 AM is my favorite get out of the bed time.

Bobstandard

(2,088 posts)
9. This one is pretty joyful
Sun Nov 2, 2025, 11:45 PM
Sunday
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The refrain goes:

Will you please dance on my grave
With your bare feet on the ground
Will you turn the music way up loud
Will you please dance on my grave

The coda is especially poignant:

No procession
No depression
Only good thoughts
From you and my kin

No more crying
No goodbye-ing
Rejoice my past
Have a good stiff drink and
Kick your shoes off and

Please dance on my grave
With your bare feet on the ground (etc)

Probably not high on the traditional lgbt funereal playlist but worth a listen and, who knows, maybe just what your family and friends will need in that moment.


littlemissmartypants

(30,862 posts)
10. Haley Bonar - Quiet Breathing is my favorite. But there probably won't be a funeral for me. I'm planning to be...
Sun Nov 2, 2025, 11:59 PM
Sunday

An Anatomical Gift. If I make the cut.

Haley Bonar - Quiet Breathing



Make my bed on a pallet of linen
Lay my head on a pillow of down
I close my eyes and see you
But in the morning, gone.

Rest my bones where the earth meets the heavens
Place my name on the things that you grow
Just close your eyes to find me
Save you a place where I go.

TlalocW

(15,671 posts)
11. I'm planning my funeral including the music
Mon Nov 3, 2025, 01:39 AM
Monday

And am using a savings app that rounds up to the nearest dollar (or two, three, etc) when you buy something to pay for it. The program will have a quote from Cookie Monster and a cartoon, and the poem, "Ozymandias," in it. I'm thinking of having a merch table.

I have a lot of years ahead of me, but I'm at the age where sooner rather than later that I should get my affairs in order.

oberle

(236 posts)
14. As a church organist
Mon Nov 3, 2025, 04:12 PM
Monday

I have played lots of different things for funeral. For mine, I want "The Old Gray Mare She Ain't What She Used To Be".

OldBaldy1701E

(9,464 posts)
15. My choice is a bit on the nose, but...
Wed Nov 5, 2025, 07:42 AM
Wednesday


Then, this one... which is personal to me in so many ways...

ColoringFool

(50 posts)
16. I'm For the Formal, So I'll Likely Have....
Wed Nov 5, 2025, 04:29 PM
Wednesday

What I had for my husband: "Amazing Grace."

But WERE I to add a "Pop" song, it would be "The Last Thing On My Mind" by the Chad Mitchell Trio (mostly solo Mike Kobluk).

Seinan Sensei

(1,241 posts)
17. "You Are Not Alone"
Thu Nov 6, 2025, 12:05 AM
Thursday

Patty Griffin



What the song means, what it does
https://www.coolmediallc.com/why-not-alone-always-connected-now/

And you are not alone
Laying in the light
Put out the fire in your head
And lay with me tonight
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