Arizona
Related: About this forumWearing a mask I picked up my son's ashes
and brought him back home. My friend who drove me also had her mask. When we arrived in the parking lot we called the Research for Life office. Their person came out gloved and masked and gave us the box containing his ashes. My son is now home.

MaryMagdaline
(7,934 posts)Grieving I isolation is just so cruel
dewsgirl
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Blue Owl
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Ohiogal
(38,363 posts)UpInArms
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sheshe2
(93,521 posts)My thoughts are with you and yours.
peacebuzzard
(5,638 posts)no words, I am so sorry for the loss of your son....
Squinch
(57,030 posts)cayugafalls
(5,923 posts)You have my deepest sympathy.
SheltieLover
(73,336 posts)
Freedomofspeech
(4,598 posts)I have no words to ease your pain but I am so very, very sorry for your loss.
spooky3
(37,835 posts)
rurallib
(64,114 posts)perhaps the saddest errand anyone could ever do.
secondwind
(16,903 posts)
applegrove
(127,965 posts)JohnnyLib2
(11,283 posts)mostlyalurker
(37 posts)My mother and I did that drive to the mortuary for my sons ashes in 2013. We still hurt when we remember.
Laura PourMeADrink
(42,770 posts)lunasun
(21,646 posts)He is home
Take care

democrank
(11,734 posts)MLAA
(19,454 posts)Moostache
(10,753 posts)I am so very sorry to hear of your pain...may you find the support and love needed to make it pass.
Lonestarblue
(12,911 posts)iluvtennis
(21,346 posts)
ancianita
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sagetea
(1,519 posts)blanket to wrap around your shoulder to bring you some comfort. I keen with you. It's never easy losing a child. Be in peace.
A-ho~
sage
AllyCat
(18,179 posts)So sorry you have lost your son.
tavernier
(13,906 posts)
sdfernando
(5,890 posts)I wish there was more I could do for you.
Delmette2.0
(4,420 posts)From one mother to another I understand your grief. I lost my son just over 2 years ago.
Scarsdale
(9,426 posts)I lost my son 9 years ago, and it still hurts deeply. Words can not describe the pain of losing a child, no matter what their age. Stay strong. My thoughts are with you at this sad time.
Kali
(56,395 posts)

Danmel
(5,564 posts)Sending virtual hugs to you.
brer cat
(27,098 posts)I hope you will find peace.
Duppers
(28,413 posts)Sending my deepest sympathy. My heart is breaking for you.
pnwmom
(110,073 posts)
ArizonaLib
(1,280 posts)Our family's strongest love to you.
Heartstrings
(7,349 posts)Virtual hugs and vibes sent.....

niyad
(126,809 posts)pazzyanne
(6,714 posts)Take special care of yourselves and each other at this sad time. Know others are here for you.
live love laugh
(15,797 posts)cate94
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Initech
(106,187 posts)God this is such a nightmare.
CaptainTruth
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FailureToCommunicate
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Laura PourMeADrink
(42,770 posts)cydney_wong
(27 posts)I have been a DU'er for many years, just never post. When I saw your post, it was like a kick in the gut. It took me back to when I picked up my son and I felt like I had to write to you. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you have support. I want to suggest an article easily found online "The 5 Stages of Grief and Other Lies that Don't help Anyone." The woman who wrote that article, Megan Devine, also wrote a book "It's OK That You're Not OK". It was my bible for 2 years until I lent it to another grieving mother, now it's her bible. The loss of a child, no matter what the age, is such a dreadfully painful experience. It is like no other death in our lives. I know no words can express the pain you are going through, there is simply no comfort. I am thinking of you tonight.
ChazII
(6,442 posts)are like a comforting quilt around my shoulders.
As some of you know my son, Jay, was diagnosed back in March of 2019 with a glioblastoma tumor. It is the same tumor that killed Sen. Kennedy, Sen. McCain and Vice President Biden's son. He was given 15 months and passed 2 weeks shy of the one year mark.
When Jay's body was picked up by Research for Life I gave him one last kiss on his forehead. His body was first taken to Barrow Neurological Instute Ivy Tumor Research here in Phoenix. While it is a blind study Jay's brain is going to a study being done by Dr. Nadir Sanai who happened to be his neurosurgeon. The rest of his body was used in an orthopedic study. Jay looked like the Disney version of Quaismodo in Hunchback of Notre Dame. Truly, they could have been brothers.
When the virus started shutting things down I was told his ashes would be held here in the Research for Life facilities. Yesterday, they called and told me I could come and get them. I was so happy that I did not ask why. My only question was could some of the ashes be placed in a necklace one of his friends gave to me. They said that they could do that for me.
The necklace is a TARDIS. Those who know about Dr. Who know what a TARDIS is and what the letters represent. I am thankful/grateful to have him back with me and that while he is no longer with us, all of this crap started last year and I was able to be his side through the surgeries (he had to have a shunt later in 2019) the radiation, cyber knife treatments and that I could be in the hospital 24/7. He was 35.5 years old when he passed.
Again, thank you for your love, your prayers and positive thoughts. They helped me get through 2019, they are helping me now and they will help through the rest of this year. You guys are really the best.
sellitman
(11,711 posts)i cannot imagine.
Only once did I face this possibility and it sucked me dry. We were lucky and his brain tumors were removed and benign.
I'm so sorry
Maraya1969
(23,335 posts)peace during this hard time also.
deek
(3,416 posts)My condolences
cornball 24
(1,558 posts)ChazII
(6,442 posts)my son is in a better place.