my wife passed away yesterday morning
after 14 years of fighting the cancer monster.
I hurt
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Of course you hurt. 
Cancer sucks.
I kept this up after my husband died... it took me a couple of months to even think about what to do.... take care of yourself
Wishing you strength to cope in the days ahead.
I can't imagine the roller coaster that must have been like.
I pray your love kept you dear to each other throughout this ordeal and made you both stronger.
Please treasure your most intimate moments like gold, and that this journey continues, and continues together in spirit.
I hope the love felt for and with you helps sustain you in this time of loss and grief.
God Speed Onethatcares. 
I am sending as much good vibes as I can in your direction.
Many here do have some sense of what you are going through, as pain and grief are transcendent.
My thoughts are with you. My only hope is that you take it one day at a time and let yourself grieve. Time outside in nature can be healing as well as affording you a chance to experience your feelings without others around.
Best wishes to you.
(((((HUGS)))))
I’m sorry for your loss. The bittersweet moment of touching your wife’s hair as she crossed over
DU is here for you.
there are some things we all need help with...
I hope your memories will be a comfort at this difficult time. Please know I hold you in my thoughts and in my heart.
My deepest condolences to you as you deal with this terrible loss. Please be gentle with yourself and reach out to us as you can.
May she rest in peace.
Hugs
just remember you are still loved, so much
love never dies
your love for her
and her love for you
it's the thread that will keep you connected until you meet again
for now, go slow -- move slow
grief can come in waves
knock you off balance,
so move more slowly
as you navigate these days ahead
Please know many people are holding in their virtual arms to comfort you at this time.
Sending you peace and healing
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You must feel so lost. I am so sorry.
Please be very gentle with yourself & contact your local hospice for bereavement counseling to help you resolve your grief.
comfort in her memory……
They could of cured this horrific disease if they wanted too.
They make too much money treating it to cure it.
Hail the Traveler! May she go forth shining!
Condolences. 
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Thank you for sharing your pain and sorrow with us on DU. Believe me DU cares about the problems we face, it's not just about politics. Did you know that we have an entire section of Support Forums, where you can connect with others who have recently lost their loved ones? If you're feeling alone you can connect with others in the same situation and dealing with the complicated emotions.
It's called the Bereavement Forum, and it's here: https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1315
Also there is the Cancer Support Forum, and another one called End of Life Issues.
May your dear wife rest in peace and may her memory be a blessing.
Tikki
and my sympathies to you.
And with love, you may be able to survive the passage of time.
Time will heal, but it doesn’t take away the pain now. God bless, know we all have taken a moment of our time to share with you in your pain.
💙
Please know that we are here for you on DU.
so sick of cancer, we should have had a cure by now
someone is always here on DU, we care
I lost mine in 2001 because of Cancer. Our son died in1999 from Cancer. My husband already had his cancer then. It's not easy. Get all the help you can get. I am seeking a grieving group again. As I have no family but only a mentally ill son in England who needs my help that I can't give. I have a few friends who try to help me.
My thoughts are with you.
and hope you can find some solace in knowing you were there for your wife.
You always had kind words for me when times were difficult.
Be kind to yourself.
I’ll be thinking of you.
tight and soft. Like a bunting blanket. So sad, onethatcares.
I was on vacation that week and so if you posted about your dear husband I missed it.
Here's kind thoughts to you as well. ❤️
And FUCK CANCER!!!
I hope that you have family and friends supporting you in this difficult time. May your dear wife rest in peace.
Sending hugs.
May all the wonderful memories be a blessing and a comfort to you.
May you find peace in your loving memories.
since 2010 and each time it changed form , name and shape. She just got tired of being a human pin cushion test pilot.
The morning of the day before she passed we discussed the end. I'm sadly glad we did because even with a living will and a dnr ittt was
so hard to tell the doctors to stop everything.
Thank you all for the kind words and virtual hand holding and hugs.
You people are the best..
I wanted to address something that you wrote.
I'm sorry I got so wordy but my fingers wouldn't stop typing.
Don't ever apologize for getting wordy. You talk about it all you want to. And you keep talking about it all you want to.
DU is here to listen. I might not have any other sound advice for you except keep talking about it. It's only a small fraction of the grieving process. Again, don't apologize.
Sending good thoughts your way during this difficult time.
I know your world is upside down right now.
Hugging is all I know how to do.
