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CTyankee

(67,675 posts)
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 09:33 AM Oct 20

Why is it so hard to throw out books when you move?

I was giving every book an opinion and that's ridiculous!

Now I am going to be ruthless. Unless it is autographed or otherwise personalized and carries a memory, out it goes!

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Why is it so hard to throw out books when you move? (Original Post) CTyankee Oct 20 OP
It's almost impossible. Me, if I need to make that decision, Polly Hennessey Oct 20 #1
Is there a nearby library you can donate books to? fierywoman Oct 20 #2
No, they won't accept any more unless it is very, very special. CTyankee Oct 20 #4
Or a bunch of Little Free Libraries Oeditpus Rex Oct 20 #13
Yes! Here is a map for LFLs (link) Nittersing Oct 20 #15
Our neighborhood has these little, tiny ones but we have a boatload of books. CTyankee Oct 20 #18
I hear ya'. Raven123 Oct 20 #3
Because they become a part of us? mwmisses4289 Oct 20 #5
I haven't read "Power And Policy in the Soviet Union" or "Mao's China" in decades..... lastlib Oct 20 #10
😃 mwmisses4289 Oct 20 #12
I've found a lot of books from my childhood on eBay lastlib Oct 20 #24
I feel the same way. LoisB Oct 20 #29
Eloquently expressed Oeditpus Rex Oct 20 #17
Donate them SheltieLover Oct 20 #6
Yes...donate them..senior centers will take them. Deuxcents Oct 20 #7
My books go where I go. lastlib Oct 20 #8
Please donate all of the outed books. sinkingfeeling Oct 20 #9
Many thrift shops take books DBoon Oct 20 #21
I hear ya! WestMichRad Oct 20 #11
Is why I've decided to never move again dweller Oct 20 #14
I'm slightly selective BOSSHOG Oct 20 #16
I am a re-reader of books I've really enjoyed. It's like visiting an old friend. 3catwoman3 Oct 20 #19
My books are who I have become in a way. Prairie_Seagull Oct 20 #20
When I move seniors most want to take their books kimbutgar Oct 20 #22
I don't feel guilty at all. mwmisses4289 Oct 20 #25
Most libraries accept donations for their book sales fargone Oct 20 #23
You read the books, the info is in your head bucolic_frolic Oct 20 #26
Because there are better things to do with them annabanana Oct 20 #27
Yep, when all other options are exhausted Grim Chieftain Oct 20 #28
exactly what do you mean by... mike_c Oct 20 #30
if u arent in a hurry, sell them on abe's books. mopinko Oct 20 #31
Someone Made That Issue Easier For Me ProfessorGAC Oct 20 #32
Just what we need...smart thieves. Prairie_Seagull Oct 21 #36
A friend of mine contacted all of her friends and invited them over for tea and take books gathering. She had her books KitFox Oct 20 #33
Any that aren't favorites Tree Lady Oct 20 #34
Please don't throw books in the trash. Coventina Oct 20 #35

Polly Hennessey

(8,423 posts)
1. It's almost impossible. Me, if I need to make that decision,
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 09:36 AM
Oct 20

I give them to a small used bookstore in Placerville.

fierywoman

(8,490 posts)
2. Is there a nearby library you can donate books to?
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 09:38 AM
Oct 20

I found that solution to be very satisfying.

CTyankee

(67,675 posts)
4. No, they won't accept any more unless it is very, very special.
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 09:40 AM
Oct 20

Lotsa book readers in New Haven (as one would expect).

 

Oeditpus Rex

(43,094 posts)
13. Or a bunch of Little Free Libraries
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 09:58 AM
Oct 20

Depending on how many books you have to unload, of course.

Hmmm... wonder if LFLs can be found on any online maps. We have three in a radius of about 100 yards. But then, this is Liberal City, USA (as well as Surf City, UUSA).

Raven123

(7,364 posts)
3. I hear ya'.
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 09:40 AM
Oct 20

I had the luxury of space when I moved, but committed to, and followed through on slowly culling my collection. Took a while, and by golly I miss a few, but overall I fell good about sharing them with others. Donated to veteran’s charities

mwmisses4289

(2,922 posts)
5. Because they become a part of us?
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 09:41 AM
Oct 20

Getting rid of them feels like we are cutting out a part of ourselves. Especially if they are books we read over and over again. They are our collection/hobby, and getting rid of something we love hurts.

lastlib

(27,299 posts)
10. I haven't read "Power And Policy in the Soviet Union" or "Mao's China" in decades.....
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 09:48 AM
Oct 20

...but I'll get rid of them when they pry them out of my cold, dead, stiff fingers.

Or any of the other 900+ books on my shelves.

mwmisses4289

(2,922 posts)
12. 😃
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 09:52 AM
Oct 20

The only reason I had to get rid of some books recently was due to water damage. It really hurt, because they were from my childhood, and I think the only way you could find them now is to go a used book store that specializes in old books.

lastlib

(27,299 posts)
24. I've found a lot of books from my childhood on eBay
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 12:44 PM
Oct 20

Books I never expected to find again--like the "Mushroom Planet" series, or "Brains Benton".

Alibris is another good site to check.

 

Oeditpus Rex

(43,094 posts)
17. Eloquently expressed
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 10:10 AM
Oct 20

Many of my books have indeed become like friends. They were a joy to read and I learned a great deal from them, including how to write. Maybe that's the most important thing.

WestMichRad

(2,842 posts)
11. I hear ya!
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 09:48 AM
Oct 20

We feel a connection with books that move or inspire us.

We regularly donate books to local libraries for their book sales… but have become disillusioned with this, since book resellers march in and buy entire shelves of these books for cheap before the general public has a chance at them.

Donating to little free libraries that have popped up here and there is a possibility.

dweller

(27,638 posts)
14. Is why I've decided to never move again
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 10:02 AM
Oct 20

In the end I will construct a mausoleum of my books into which I will be interred …






✌🏻

BOSSHOG

(44,297 posts)
16. I'm slightly selective
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 10:10 AM
Oct 20

They will have my James Lee Burke books when they pry them from my cold dead hands. Hopefully a long time from now.

HOWEVER, My wife and I constantly ask ourselves, “have I read this book.” So after six months or so we gotta a”new” book to read. Young people don’t have that super power.

3catwoman3

(28,348 posts)
19. I am a re-reader of books I've really enjoyed. It's like visiting an old friend.
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 10:39 AM
Oct 20

I know most people think re-reading a book is silly - "You already know what happens." While not a speed reader, I am pretty fast, and when I re-read a book, I pick up lots of details I may not have retained from the first reading. With some authors, I simply love the way they put words together and enjoy re-savoring their skill.

No one seems to think it odd if people watch a good movie more than once (Wizard of Oz, Sound of Music, It's a Beautiful Life, etc), and people listen to favorite songs hundreds, if not thousands, of times. Why should that be any different for books?

Some of my most re-read books - Little Women, Rebecca, Winds of War and War and Remembrance, Wrinkle in Time, and The Devil Wore Prada.

One time when we moved, we had 50 boxes of books.

Prairie_Seagull

(4,571 posts)
20. My books are who I have become in a way.
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 10:46 AM
Oct 20

Getting rid of them would be like loosing an appendage.

Probably the main reason we have not downsized...yet.

kimbutgar

(26,567 posts)
22. When I move seniors most want to take their books
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 10:55 AM
Oct 20

One lady I worked with over a period of weeks we went though every book she had in multiple bookcases. We ended up donating 50 boxes of books, I come home and look at my bookcases and feel guilty I have so many books.

mwmisses4289

(2,922 posts)
25. I don't feel guilty at all.
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 01:02 PM
Oct 20

We have always joked that we needed by an abandoned library with a house and yard attached, lol.

fargone

(531 posts)
23. Most libraries accept donations for their book sales
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 11:18 AM
Oct 20

They may not want things like mass market paperback, textbooks and such. My son has an unaffiliated little library that I have also contributed to. It's in northern Minnesota so really only active half the year. Children's books are most popular, adult non-fiction much less so.

Grim Chieftain

(1,036 posts)
28. Yep, when all other options are exhausted
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 01:58 PM
Oct 20

put a post on your local Facebook site and offer free books to be picked up at your driveway. I can't stand to throw books away.

Good luck!

mike_c

(36,878 posts)
30. exactly what do you mean by...
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 03:57 PM
Oct 20

..."throw out books?" Those three words make no sense without appropriate modifiers, e.g. "not throw out books," or "I'd rip my own heart out and eat it with mustard to avoid throwing out books."

There, I fixed it for you. We can both feel better now.

mopinko

(73,225 posts)
31. if u arent in a hurry, sell them on abe's books.
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 04:49 PM
Oct 20

at least sift through and find out what’s they’re worth. u can scan the ibn (?)# or bar code to look them up. u cd end up w a tidy sum.
have a friend who makes a living selling used books.

ProfessorGAC

(75,498 posts)
32. Someone Made That Issue Easier For Me
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 05:35 PM
Oct 20

Not that we're moving, but back in around '14, I had to temporarily give up my office until a new building was complete.
I was only there about half the time anyway and for safety reasons, staff in the non-permanent structures in the operating units. So, my office was needed.
Anyway, in a safe area, they brought in trailers for those of us displaced, but having to put 3 of us in each room, I didn't have room for my "reference library". I packed them into boxes.
A few months before, my wife got her new car. So, we kept her old one, and I drive that in the winter, leaving my ragtop in the garage for the winter.
These boxes were in that car for a few months and spring came. So, the car is parked in front of the house for 3 months.
New building is open, so I am setting up to move into my new office. I go to that car to transfer the boxes and take them to work.
They're gone! Stolen.
Unfortunately, 4 of my 5 diplomas/degree certificates were in those boxes. The MBA diploma was still in the envelope at home.
I always imagined the look on the face of the thieves when they opened the boxes and saw books on Oranic Mechanisms, Advanced Thermodynamics, Chemical Kinetics, Polymer Chemistry, Chemical Quantum Theory, various tomes on mathematical analysis techniques, and the business books.
I fear those became fire pit starters.

KitFox

(483 posts)
33. A friend of mine contacted all of her friends and invited them over for tea and take books gathering. She had her books
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 07:32 PM
Oct 20

spread out all over her house and deck. She had a stack of bags and boxes and encouraged everyone to fill up as many as they desired. By the time we had tea and treats, she didn’t have many left unclaimed. I sometimes part with books to give to my local library book sales, but I struggle mightily letting go of any of them. All the best to you in your new adventure.

Tree Lady

(12,952 posts)
34. Any that aren't favorites
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 08:51 PM
Oct 20

Get taken to used bookstore for more books or sold at garage sale or given to library.

Coventina

(29,023 posts)
35. Please don't throw books in the trash.
Mon Oct 20, 2025, 09:10 PM
Oct 20

There are so many places to donate them.
Or even sell them, if you have resell bookstores.
There are places online that will buy them as well.

If all else fails, please donate them to prisons. They need books desperately!

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