"Thanks, Trump" at the end as a joke, but I didn't want my post to get kicked out of the lounge.

But only you as the dreamer can interpret.

I’ll be back later when I am on my computer, not this IPad.

Me too, Peggy!

Best of luck today and please keep us updated!

I think dreaming of falling means you are stressed (yes, you are, no surprises) Maybe dying signifies beginning something new. With your sibling admitting they are wrong, it might mean reconciliation.

As you mull over the details of the dream, how do the significant details make you feel?

I saw your post about the wonderful deli sandwich you got, and it reminded me of something. After my brother died in 1983, I was grieving for a really long time. One day, I was brushing my teeth, and I got hyperaware of how it felt. It was a life-affirming moment of reality. Like a connection to actually being alive. Enough of a moment for me to remember all these years later. You've had a lot going on lately, and maybe you are rising from your low spot.

Fingers crossed for better times

My brother died about 4 years ago from Covid.

I think I suppressed my grief, and lately, I have been thinking about him several times a day. Missing him.

I've also been grieving hard for everyone that I've lost recently...much more so than usual.

I've been unnaturally obsessed with the thought "I'm going to see them all again some day", even though that is not what I actually believe will happen.

While all of this is going on, I also have moments of tremendous positivity. A feeling of lightness in spite of the grief.

Thank you for your response.

There's nothing unnatural about wondering if there's an afterlife, and you don't have to belong to any religion to believe there is. I left the Catholic Church in my teens. Gradually over decades went from being agnostic to realizing that between near-death experiences, deathbed visions and after-death communications (unmediated experiences; no one needs a medium), there was simply too much evidence of an afterlife, one where we can be reunited with loved ones, to ignore. Nurses and people working in hospice often have experiences to recount. A lot of people have personal experiences, though they're often unwilling to talk about them. Probably all of us know someone who's had such experiences, but you generally won't hear about them unless people feel they can talk about them without being ridiculed. A grief support group where such experiences won't be ridiculed, for instance. I haven't looked at DU's Bereavement forum very often, but I'm fairly sure I've seen such experiences posted there at times.



That isn't unusual in ADCs, after-death communications. They're letting you know they're fine. Sending comfort.

I read that some things are unacceptable. That one sentence helped me get back to where I wanted to be. I haven't let myself feel how much I miss my friend of 67 years, who died Oct. 1st last year. I imagine I'll just go on missing her until we meet again.

I don't worry about seeing my loved ones. I talk to them when I feel like it. I love dreams that feature the people who went ahead of me. I've noticed that in my dreams, no one actually talks, but we all understand what each is communicating. The only person I haven't seen in my dreams is my brother. I get the feeling that when he went from here to there, he was transformed and he didn't any ties to be happy. Nothing selfish, only joy.

Whatever keeps us together in the here and now

Be strong, but be gentle with yourself.

First is an anxiety dream.

Is there some sort of situation you are facing that is very difficult
and you only have a couple of possible solutions which are not optimal?
And the problem poses a danger to you?

The second part of the dream is about unresolved issues between
you and your sibling. If you don't have a sibling or issues with a sib,
it is about someone close to you. A non sexual relationship.

It could be that the two issues are on your mind so you dreamt
about them together or perhaps they are connected.

What do you think it meant that you asked about a head blow and blanket?

Was the death at the end some sort of closure symbol?
Or is there recent death in your life or something along those lines?

I respect your dream interpretations The closest meaning of a dream is up to us, but it sure helps to get some pointers

It is our unconscious communicating to us via dreams.
It is our unconscious working on issues via dreaming about it.

Often are not even aware of the issues on a conscious level.
Or the complexities of the issue.

And yes the dreamer helps interprets the dream because some of
the symbolism is unique to each dreamer.

So to get the meaning of the dream you have to ask some questions
and understand what the symbols in the dream mean to the dreamer.
This is why my training was not to use a dream cook book.
Where a snake always means the same thing in every dream, etc.

Some of it is obvious, we can see the nature of this dream.
Falling off a roof and hanging on by a couple of fingers is obviously
an anxiety dream.

But most dreamers need some help figuring it out.

We can also see a theme of the dream is also death and dying.

We can also see some closure on an issue. Someone admits their guilt
at the end of the dream.

So it takes awhile to sort out the dream and the pieces of it.
And you have to talk with the dreamer and ask questions.

I'll just type out some random thoughts here...

The death was sudden after the flash, and I was somehow happy, like I was going to heaven or something, to see the people I've lost.

I was talking to my neighbor the other day. He's had a bad time of it. He almost died. He was in the ICU for awhile. I'm not sure if he coded in the hospital, or what happened...he was vague. He's home now, but he's not in good shape. While talking to him, he grabbed my arm and said "Don't be afraid of dying. It's beautiful". His comments have been on my mind since we spoke. So part of the dream may be related to that.

While I was trying to grip the inside of the gutter, I thought "I hope there's no bats sleeping in there".

I sleep in a recliner upstairs because of a bad back. My wife sleeps in the king bed downstairs. She goes to sleep earlier than I do, but we have a ritual that when she goes to bed, I go and lay on the bed with her and the dog, and we both pet the dog to sleep. Then, I try to get out of the bed, but because of my back, it's difficult. I have to kick my legs like crazy to get momentum to get out of bed. This is maybe why I dreamed about kicking my legs to get to the ladder.

There's a mirror on the dresser, and I can see myself as I get out of the bed. I looked at myself in the mirror, and for some reason, I had a thought that I wasn't long for this world. I told my wife "Jesus Christ, how did we get so fucking old". She said "You're still handsome, you're still strong...look at your hands, look at your arms...you're still strong". I'm thinking that her comments related to me trying to grip the gutter, and also kicking my legs to try to get to the ladder.

My sibling's face repulsed me in the dream. It's a very long story, but I was deserted by two of my siblings after my mother died. They left the care taking arrangements to me for years before she passed, and they dissed her relentlessly after she died. I had a lovely relationship with my mom...and their lack of kindness toward her, and the disrespect after she died, is what caused the estrangement. In my dream I was thinking "It's too fucking late to apologize to me, and maybe you should say a prayer for your mother".

The most intense part of the dream was actually me asking about the blanket. I somehow wanted to make sure that I was kept warm.

I don't know what the bruise on the neck was about. But as far as the hit on the head, my primary care is constantly admonishing me...if you ever fall, make sure you try to protect your head because you are on blood thinners and you could get a brain bleed. So maybe that's why I asked about my head.

That's all I got!

neighbor apparently had. I was writing that while you were posting this.

She didn't know what it was, but a few years later saw one of the first television documentaries about it. She told us about it, and I think the experience explains why her behavior changed. I was all for her living for herself and loved that she got a chance to be herself and not just Mom.

To go from esoteric to reality, maybe you would benefit from having a portable bed rail. You can get an adjustable metal rail. Part of it slides under the mattress to hold it in place. I had one for my mom, and she used it to pull herself up. Or a clothes rack

I bet your mom was wonderful.

I get up on one elbow, and then intertwine my fingers and clasp my hands together. Then I push my body weight up with my arms while kicking my legs.

Unfortunately, a bed rail would not help because the REAL trouble starts after I get out of bed and try to walk. The first couple of minutes makes me scream...it's like hell on earth, so I literally can't sleep in a bed, and I miss it.

I still have the same problem in a recliner, but not nearly as bad.

Once I get moving around, I'm golden.

So we see emerging grieving issues.

Where you are very much missing loved ones and wish to see them again.
So it is not you wanting to die, but to be reunited with loved ones.

Yes this is a good point, the conversation with your neighbor.
Dreams often incorporate recent events, and we are thinking and
sorting it out in our dreamwork at night.

Yes you incorporating parts of your daily ritual.
And your wife's comments about your still being strong and youthful.
We don't know what the bruise on the neck is about.
Perhaps also related to the doctor's comments.

Yes your anger at your sib comes out in the dream.
Too damn little, too damn late.

Yes I was aware that the blanket could be the most important part of the dream,
so I am not surprised it was intense. It is an important part of the dream.

I knew it was important, because in every dream there is usually one thing
that doesn't fit. And that was you asking about a blanket after a horrible accident.

What is the significance of keeping you warm?

I see it likely as a positive part of the dream.
While you are anxious and happy to think about death to see your loved ones,
you still want to live.

A blanket keeps us warm and alive.
A cold body means death.

So it appears the dreamer wants very much to live.

I took classes in dream analysis as part of my graduate work.
It is always fun to do dreamwork.

about the dream.

If it's casting a shadow across your day, remind yourself of everything you have to be grateful for, even the smallest things. Write down a list, if that helps you focus.

look like these, Lucky?

Or any time of the day, come to think of it.

Just don't get any of that hair in your mouth while trying to swallow your Raisin Bran.

I "woke up" and there was nothing. All was gone including light. I thought I had better take a deep breath, but I couldn't. I pushed myself up and really woke up thinking that may have been a warning.

Your brain is now incapable of functioning past the final moments of your life, so your consciousness is stuck in those final moments, left to simply imagine things like posting about it on du and all our responses, including this one

You know me, and you know this is a very unblocky thing for you to have imagined I would say.

Your consciousness will carry on, living for you the rest of what seems a normal lifetime, all in what for those of us still living is a mere instant, until your consciousness accepts that it's time to turn off the lights.

I don't drink, so I'll just have a water...but we can just shoot the shit.

looking forward to it nevertheless

(half a grin smiley )

I demoted the smiley to half because I take your dream somewhat seriously. We can't take dreams too seriously because they are only dreams. The mind wanders relatively unrestrained by reason because it is exploring things like "How would I react to ... ?" But the Rapture has been in the news and on some minds lately and we were saved from being yanked up to that boring bar called "Heaven" where nothing every happens ... unlike DU where stuff is always happening.

The concern about the blanket (as expanded upon in another post of yours) may be a part of your mind unwilling to completely write off and abandon your sibling, expressing a hope that there is some goodness.

Basically the dream has main elements: Something needed fixing, barely hanging on (actually or metaphorically), survived a calamity. Did you not recently have a health issue, if my memory serves me? Those elements also describe the tRump 2.0 saga, which so far we are barely hanging on from but we have hopes (and my optimism) that we will survive the calamity.

and the word ''rapture'' sliding into ''rafter'' in your dream until it's a symbol mash-up of trying to hang onto dear life by your fingernails while being comforted by the after-life scenes.

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All of the responses helped me figure out a dream I had last week. I appreciate all of you so much!

I've just been super-busy. Will BBL.