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Duncanpup

(14,388 posts)
Thu May 1, 2025, 06:55 PM Yesterday

Is there any professionals here who can identify what a stalker is. I definitely have a problem

It’s getting worse no personal space example today I left the house to get the mail looking out bay window was my stalker. I was not even gone two minutes and back in the house the tippy taps start as in my goodness you’ve been gone forever i was worried.
I grilled cheeseburgers earlier and my stalker sat on the sofa next to me just staring hard as i ate touching me with his paw . Then about two hours later i went to the kitchen. At this time my stalker was asleep on couch all four golden paws in the air.
Yet when I was in the kitchen mixing vanilla ice cream with peanut butter i turned around and there was my stalker looking at me.

Is this a healthy relationship just wondering if Dunc the 78 pound chunk has ulterior motives in our relationship.

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Is there any professionals here who can identify what a stalker is. I definitely have a problem (Original Post) Duncanpup Yesterday OP
I'm just an amateur, but I think spooky3 Yesterday #1
If he's a Labrador, that explains it FullySupportDems Yesterday #2
Golden retriever Duncanpup Yesterday #4
My big yellow lab almost looks like a Golden retriever FullySupportDems Yesterday #7
The best dogs I ever had DENVERPOPS Yesterday #29
They sound absolutely magnificent FullySupportDems Yesterday #40
My Zeus was part golden and part wolf AKwannabe 11 hrs ago #49
Every time I have to euthanize one of my dogs DENVERPOPS 9 hrs ago #55
It's been my experience lavoosh99 6 hrs ago #59
Dependent personality disorder with histrionic traits? SheltieLover Yesterday #3
Can you do FaceTime counseling Duncanpup Yesterday #6
Only in certain states, Dunc. SheltieLover Yesterday #10
Never mind Sheltie yet thank you counseling will not work. Duncanpup Yesterday #12
Pffffft SheltieLover Yesterday #15
Don't blame the victim!!! COL Mustard Yesterday #42
If I were you, I'd be scared. Very scared. PJMcK Yesterday #5
Excellent advice Duncanpup Yesterday #8
I've got bad news EYESORE 9001 Yesterday #9
The real danger is if stalker gains access to your fridge. SheltieLover Yesterday #11
How cute. Srkdqltr Yesterday #13
They stare into the very core of the food, sometimes drooling, as if they can will it into their mouths. Clouds Passing Yesterday #14
We had a similar stalker. Nanuke Yesterday #16
Bed cuddles are the best Duncanpup Yesterday #17
Glad you tolerated his hunting failures... 10 Turtle Day 14 hrs ago #48
protection order?? Evolve Dammit Yesterday #18
Respectfully, you're the problem Jerry2144 Yesterday #19
Absolutely Duncanpup Yesterday #23
Nothing wrong with a furry stalker with four feet Warpy Yesterday #20
Hilarious Duncanpup Yesterday #24
I *hope* you don't have a stalker... maspaha Yesterday #21
I understand Duncanpup Yesterday #25
In reality... WestMichRad Yesterday #22
NO cure for the OCD in that relationship, I'm afraid. You've been CHOSEN! hlthe2b Yesterday #26
You have a serious problem. Have you tried a restraining order? littlemissmartypants Yesterday #27
Yeah, you have a problem. patphil Yesterday #28
All I want to know is (1) Did you share the cheeseburger and (2) Did Dunc get any ice cream? LoisB Yesterday #30
Yes on both burger and ice cream score Duncanpup Yesterday #32
Dunc The Golden Retriever has fans. LoisB Yesterday #37
Get a new dog! Jacson6 Yesterday #31
Sorry, Nothing Will Help ProfessorGAC Yesterday #33
You want to start a support group Duncanpup Yesterday #34
Sure. As long as... ProfessorGAC Yesterday #35
Absolutely Duncanpup 18 hrs ago #47
Dunc knows Practice Makes Perfect. Those toys aren't going to squeak themselves! MLAA 22 sec ago #65
Consential fairplay IbogaProject Yesterday #36
Walk , don't run. Tetrachloride Yesterday #38
My stalker is relentless Mountain Mule Yesterday #39
Yes Duncanpup Yesterday #43
Seems he took your recent advice very seriously: ''Start stocking up on essentials.'' Donkees Yesterday #41
peanut buter aand vanilla ice cream? hmm. AllaN01Bear Yesterday #44
The real question is does he love you or is he just using you for food? airplaneman 18 hrs ago #45
We're madly in love Duncanpup 18 hrs ago #46
Seems a benign stalker. Only get worried if your stalker starts putting on orange makeup. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz 10 hrs ago #50
I have 3 stalkers... Trueblue Texan 10 hrs ago #51
We should all be so lucky. Buddyzbuddy 10 hrs ago #52
My stalker appears when I use the can opener or open the refrigerator. milestogo 10 hrs ago #53
The bigger story is "mixing vanilla ice cream with peanut butter" What?!? Yummm! nt AnotherMother4Peace 9 hrs ago #54
I feel for you dunc. TexLaProgressive 8 hrs ago #56
I nicknamed my stalker "Creepy Watson" JoseBalow 8 hrs ago #57
Our dog is my shadow. A white one. twodogsbarking 7 hrs ago #58
I think I see the problem . Permanut 6 hrs ago #60
Yeah he wanted Figarosmom 4 hrs ago #61
The retrievers were all amateurs compared to our gsp - TBF 4 hrs ago #62
Mine has a peeping tom thing for when I'm on the loo. - "On" the loo, correct idiom? UTUSN 4 hrs ago #63
I've got one that does heavy breathing in my face Bluethroughu 3 hrs ago #64

spooky3

(37,417 posts)
1. I'm just an amateur, but I think
Thu May 1, 2025, 06:58 PM
Yesterday

You have been giving poor Dunc encouragement. You have only yourself to blame, you flirt!

DENVERPOPS

(11,965 posts)
29. The best dogs I ever had
Thu May 1, 2025, 08:35 PM
Yesterday

were a half golden lab, half wolf......and his sidekick was a golden retriever........

I've had six dogs since, none of which came close to those two...........

AKwannabe

(6,746 posts)
49. My Zeus was part golden and part wolf
Fri May 2, 2025, 11:00 AM
11 hrs ago

The best boy.
He crossed the rainbow bridge May 2, 2018.

DENVERPOPS

(11,965 posts)
55. Every time I have to euthanize one of my dogs
Fri May 2, 2025, 12:55 PM
9 hrs ago

I die a thousand deaths and am a wreck for weeks or months.......Never wanting to go thru that grief process again, I swear I am never again getting a new dog.............but I always do.............

Duncanpup

(14,388 posts)
12. Never mind Sheltie yet thank you counseling will not work.
Thu May 1, 2025, 07:22 PM
Yesterday

Dunc thinks his shit is golden what an ego.

PJMcK

(23,551 posts)
5. If I were you, I'd be scared. Very scared.
Thu May 1, 2025, 07:03 PM
Yesterday

You never know what a stalker could be up to. If they've gained access to your home, you're in deep trouble. It sounds to me like you have two choices: Either ignore your stalker or give them a bath.

Good luck!

EYESORE 9001

(28,171 posts)
9. I've got bad news
Thu May 1, 2025, 07:11 PM
Yesterday

You’re dealing with a stalker who can keep you under nearly constant surveillance. With his nose. Roughly 100,000 times more sensitive than yours or mine. Hearing is none too shabby either.

Clouds Passing

(4,540 posts)
14. They stare into the very core of the food, sometimes drooling, as if they can will it into their mouths.
Thu May 1, 2025, 07:27 PM
Yesterday

Sitting so close they impede your ability to eat. Stalking in the kitchen. Stalking in the dining room. Stalking on the sofa. Stalking every step you take. Yeah, I’d say, you’ve got a stalker big time!

Nanuke

(714 posts)
16. We had a similar stalker.
Thu May 1, 2025, 07:35 PM
Yesterday

He was a Golden named Brandy and weighed over 100 lbs (with a big build and a giant head). He stalked us in our tent when camping, in the boat and lake when fishing, and in our bed at night, which became crowded. I bought him from a line of pedigree duck hunting dogs as a gift for my then husband. He was a total hunting failure—got tangled up in all the decoys, swam to a deserted island waiting for rescue, and would not put a feather or duck in his mouth. Miss him so.

10 Turtle Day

(720 posts)
48. Glad you tolerated his hunting failures...
Fri May 2, 2025, 07:20 AM
14 hrs ago

A certain former SD governor/monster would have given him a sudden end in a gravel pit instead of loving on him.

Jerry2144

(2,800 posts)
19. Respectfully, you're the problem
Thu May 1, 2025, 07:43 PM
Yesterday

Dunc is not getting enough attention. Don't you know he deserves all of it?

Please give him an ear scritch for me

Warpy

(113,287 posts)
20. Nothing wrong with a furry stalker with four feet
Thu May 1, 2025, 07:53 PM
Yesterday

Shoot, I had a tomcat who displayed classic drug seeking behavior after minor surgery. He really seemed to like that buprenorphine, although he hated the taste.

maspaha

(456 posts)
21. I *hope* you don't have a stalker...
Thu May 1, 2025, 07:55 PM
Yesterday

…although now maybe I understand how my St Bernards see me…

…but in my defense, I readily admit I’m probably inappropriately attached to them…

🐾🐾🐾🐾
🐾🐾🐾🐾

littlemissmartypants

(27,403 posts)
27. You have a serious problem. Have you tried a restraining order?
Thu May 1, 2025, 08:17 PM
Yesterday

I have the same issue. She's not even ten inches tall and weighs almost 3 1/2 pounds. If I breath heavily, she's on alert.

I've been forced into carrying her around in a front facing baby carrier shirt.


Because she's so tiny that I've stepped on her. I tried a bell but she chewed it up so it won't ring.

She has a backpack that she loves to get into and ride on my back, in the house. If I leave her sling carrier out she'll get in it and bark.

I'm in big trouble. She's my little velcro puppy and I love her.

Let us know if you find a cure for that last part. Love is usually always a sign of trouble.
😉

You're so much fun and entertaining. I understand the attraction.

We love you and your stalker. Thank you for sharing your world with us.

❤️

patphil

(7,738 posts)
28. Yeah, you have a problem.
Thu May 1, 2025, 08:33 PM
Yesterday

There's no real defense against this, but I suggest tummy rubs, rubs behind the ears, and a lot of "whose your daddy asks, followed by treats and long walks.
It's incurable, but you can contain it, especially if you are willing to acknowledge who's in charge.

Of course that's if you can accept Dunc as being the one who rules the relationship.
Surrender is your only recourse. May God have mercy on your soul.

LoisB

(10,251 posts)
30. All I want to know is (1) Did you share the cheeseburger and (2) Did Dunc get any ice cream?
Thu May 1, 2025, 08:40 PM
Yesterday

I wouldn't say he was "stalking" you, more like looking out for your best interests (and his).

ProfessorGAC

(72,471 posts)
33. Sorry, Nothing Will Help
Thu May 1, 2025, 08:46 PM
Yesterday

Seems like every time I turn around there's this black creature with floppy ears right there.
Geez, often he's right there laying in the back seat of my car.
Don't get me started on his little orange accomplices.

Duncanpup

(14,388 posts)
47. Absolutely
Fri May 2, 2025, 03:32 AM
18 hrs ago

If we lived closer together we would have already been jamming together Vince you Dunc and i. Not to brag yet Dunc is quite accomplished on a squeak toy. Professor an analogy i once told a young man who i was showing S.R.V. technique i said you have to attack with your picking hand play hard and Duncs squeak toy style is definitely hard on the attack.

There are times where Dunc practices his squeak toys Furrever mornings afternoon evenings. Why even in bed in middle of the night he’s dedicated.

Mountain Mule

(1,120 posts)
39. My stalker is relentless
Thu May 1, 2025, 09:04 PM
Yesterday

When I sit down on my couch to watch Rachel, my stalker jumps up next to me and appears to drink in her every word. When I step outside, my stalker is right behind me, demanding that I take him on a ten mile walk. Of course, he's right there when I go into my kitchen to fix myself something to eat. He demands a tribute of a chunk of raw hamburger or a container of Amy's Pad Thai to lick out. He even follows me to bed and snoozes beside me all night long. How awful is that?

Worst of all, my stalker is getting to be older and I'm just not ready to consider existential worries when it comes to his regard. My stalker should live forever as far as I'm concerned. He may just be a mutt that I got from the pound; he may just be a hound who likes to sing along with the local coyotes; he may just be a gangster of love who almost knocks me down when I return from buying groceries; but I love my stalker and his stalking ways with all my heart. May all stalkers everywhere live long and thrive!

Donkees

(32,791 posts)
41. Seems he took your recent advice very seriously: ''Start stocking up on essentials.''
Thu May 1, 2025, 09:22 PM
Yesterday

Thinking about food insecurity just gives him a much bigger appetite and insecurity

''Just a suggestion to my D.U. Neighbors. Start stocking up on essentials.''

Bernardo de La Paz

(55,105 posts)
50. Seems a benign stalker. Only get worried if your stalker starts putting on orange makeup. . . . nt
Fri May 2, 2025, 11:35 AM
10 hrs ago

Trueblue Texan

(3,302 posts)
51. I have 3 stalkers...
Fri May 2, 2025, 11:40 AM
10 hrs ago

The only time I get any time unsurveilled is when I can get the bathroom door shut before they push through it.

milestogo

(20,423 posts)
53. My stalker appears when I use the can opener or open the refrigerator.
Fri May 2, 2025, 11:53 AM
10 hrs ago

He can be in hiding and then suddenly, there he is. He stares at me while I am eating.

I think this type of stalking is fairly common and very healthy.

TexLaProgressive

(12,472 posts)
56. I feel for you dunc.
Fri May 2, 2025, 01:30 PM
8 hrs ago

I've given up, my pointy ears long tail stalker is holding me down- she's sleeping off a bad night of thunderstorms.

Just give Blondie some love.

twodogsbarking

(13,495 posts)
58. Our dog is my shadow. A white one.
Fri May 2, 2025, 02:52 PM
7 hrs ago

Anyone old enough to remember White Shadow on Mickey Mouse Club original.

Permanut

(7,061 posts)
60. I think I see the problem .
Fri May 2, 2025, 03:57 PM
6 hrs ago

But just to be sure -

Are you spoiling him rotten? I know that's your job, but this could be a side effect. There is no cure.

Bluethroughu

(7,201 posts)
64. I've got one that does heavy breathing in my face
Fri May 2, 2025, 06:15 PM
3 hrs ago

At 3:00AM and wants me to follow him out into the night while he snoops around...I'm exhausted by him, but I love him.

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