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Polybius

(22,193 posts)
Thu Jun 4, 2026, 09:31 PM Thursday

Several Women Who Dated Graham Platner Recall 'Unsettling' Behavior

Source: NY Times

On Tuesday evening, after a whirlwind day in Washington, Graham Platner, the Democratic candidate for Senate in Maine, rushed home.

Rumors were spreading from Portland to the Potomac about Mr. Platner’s messy personal life, after news reports that he had sent sexual messages to women while married. Democratic senators were pressing him about whether more damaging revelations were coming. Journalists were swarming, staking out his hometown.

Amid the turmoil, Mr. Platner worked the phones, rolling through calls to ex-girlfriends who might publicly acknowledge that while he may have been a bad boyfriend, he was, in fact, a decent guy.

In interviews with The New York Times on Wednesday, several women did just that, describing Mr. Platner as a fun and caring partner, and saying they felt safe with him. Some remain friends with him to this day, years after their relationships ended.

Read more: https://www.nytimes.com/2026/06/04/us/politics/platner-maine-senate-girlfriends-relationships.html

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Several Women Who Dated Graham Platner Recall 'Unsettling' Behavior (Original Post) Polybius Thursday OP
What about the guy who cheated on his pregnant wife with a porn star, then paid for her silence????? groundloop Thursday #1
Is that the bar? RandySF Thursday #3
Exactly PatSeg Thursday #7
Or is Susan Collins the bar? You want 6 more years of her? paleotn Thursday #12
Not true. SamuelAdams 17 hrs ago #34
THANK YOU Skittles Yesterday #18
David Costello (D) RandySF Thursday #2
X1000 yorkster Thursday #5
Maine voters decide not DU pundits duckworth969 Thursday #6
Where did I tell anyone how to vote? RandySF Thursday #10
Above. paleotn Thursday #13
I was informing RandySF Thursday #14
What you're advocating is 6 more years of Susan Collins. You just don't know it. paleotn Thursday #15
How SSJVegeta 20 hrs ago #31
Nothing has stopped him from getting out and meeting the public questionseverything 6 hrs ago #52
No, RandySF isn't .. and he knows that. nt Cha 9 hrs ago #46
yup Skittles Yesterday #20
This message was self-deleted by its author Skittles Yesterday #21
this is a POLITICAL BOARD Skittles Yesterday #19
Uh no chernabogg 16 hrs ago #40
you can be judged on the opinion Skittles 14 hrs ago #41
I am fairly certain that the DU member to whom you responded knows niyad 6 hrs ago #50
And then that person gets to vote on decisions that affect all of us. niyad 20 hrs ago #25
I don't understand it PatSeg Thursday #9
No info on his stance on wars of choice by Israel questionseverything 20 hrs ago #30
K/R SSJVegeta 19 hrs ago #32
David Costello for Senate! mahina 9 hrs ago #47
Many of us are in trouble if we accept the testimony of exes in the court of public opinion. bluedigger Thursday #4
Republican agents pulling out ALL the stops dave99 Thursday #8
That's exactly what it oldmanlynn Thursday #16
He didn't know it was Nazi tatoo, I don't doc03 Thursday #11
This is middle school Mickey Mouse shit NNguyenMD Thursday #17
Wow, so his attitudes and behaviours toward women are "mickey niyad 20 hrs ago #26
Yes the attitude could not be more clear. Irish_Dem 20 hrs ago #28
I got it, because he didn't have picture perfect views... NNguyenMD 17 hrs ago #35
Thank you for the confirmation. niyad 17 hrs ago #36
Priorities right NNguyenMD 16 hrs ago #37
Thank you for confirming that women are NOT a priority. Good to know. niyad 16 hrs ago #38
Democracy is kind of important, imho NNguyenMD 12 hrs ago #42
AND WITHOUT WOMEN THERE WOULD NOT BE ANY DEMOCRACY. niyad 11 hrs ago #44
This is the point we are making. Irish_Dem 20 hrs ago #29
YES !!!!! RB77 12 hrs ago #43
I agree that democracy is at risk. Irish_Dem 10 hrs ago #45
Mickey Mouse actually taught children morals. sheshe2 4 hrs ago #53
The people of Maine prioritize what they want in their senators NNguyenMD 2 hrs ago #54
What do I know, I am just a hatchet wound..... delisen 20 hrs ago #22
Exactly! niyad 20 hrs ago #27
This is in the Maine voters hands! bluestarone 20 hrs ago #23
Funny how allegations like this always come out of the woodwork MrsCheaplaugh 20 hrs ago #24
For consistency, did you say the same thing about Roy Moore? Polybius 8 hrs ago #49
"Journalists were swarming, staking out his hometown." What man (maybe some women, too) would stand up to such scrutiny? sop 19 hrs ago #33
take a breath take a breath MissKat 16 hrs ago #39
David Costello is running too mahina 9 hrs ago #48
Costello sounds like an excellent candidate. Irish_Dem 1 hr ago #55
That's how it looks to me too! mahina 40 min ago #58
Exactly. If we want to save democracy we have to bring out the big guns. Irish_Dem 17 min ago #59
NONE of the PTSD vets I counseled or have been around was a rape niyad 6 hrs ago #51
My experience as well. PTSD doesn't cause this kind of pattern. Irish_Dem 1 hr ago #57
I lived and worked with PTSD. Irish_Dem 1 hr ago #56

groundloop

(13,965 posts)
1. What about the guy who cheated on his pregnant wife with a porn star, then paid for her silence?????
Thu Jun 4, 2026, 09:38 PM
Thursday

PatSeg

(53,756 posts)
7. Exactly
Thu Jun 4, 2026, 10:15 PM
Thursday

I find the comparison rather disturbing. Obviously no one is perfect, but many of the allegations are unsettling.

I am surprised that his campaign didn't do any oppo research early on, as they didn't appear to be prepared for so many of the accusations. Granted I know much of them could be fabricated by republican operatives.

Obviously, I hope we win the seat and if it is Platner, I hope he lives up to his promises.

paleotn

(22,908 posts)
12. Or is Susan Collins the bar? You want 6 more years of her?
Thu Jun 4, 2026, 10:42 PM
Thursday

That's the choice Mainers have. Our approval is unnecessary.

RandySF

(87,088 posts)
2. David Costello (D)
Thu Jun 4, 2026, 09:38 PM
Thursday

David, whose family was not well-off and who, like many in Maine, began work early and worked his way through the University of Maine, George Washington University, and the London School of Economics. And who served for more than 30 years in senior-level government and non-government positions, both in the United States, including in Maine, and abroad – implementing and managing; not simply legislating or talking about complex multi-million-dollar programs and operations.

Programs and operations that included working closely with U.S. Army, the United Nations, and foreign aid organizations overseas – and various state and local government agencies, businesses, and non-governmental organizations in Maine, Maryland, and elsewhere.

Programs and operations that resulted in: elections, campaign finance, and motor vehicle safety reforms in Maine; improved public schools and expanded assistance to children, youth and families at risk in Baltimore; the implementation of ambitious job creation, education, healthcare, crime eduction, and environmental protection programs in Maryland; and the completion of more than 4,000 peace and community building projects in conflict-torn Cambodia, Haiti, Bosnia, Croatia, Kosovo, and Serbia.

The contrasts between Senator Collins’s and David’s backgrounds and public service records couldn’t be starker, and the decision regarding whom to support in 2026 should be an easy one.



https://www.costelloforsenate.com/


RandySF

(87,088 posts)
10. Where did I tell anyone how to vote?
Thu Jun 4, 2026, 10:33 PM
Thursday

Bernie and Hasan can go to Maine but I can’t mention another Democratic candidate?

RandySF

(87,088 posts)
14. I was informing
Thu Jun 4, 2026, 10:48 PM
Thursday

But I have as much right to advocate as anyone who travels to another state to endorse.

SSJVegeta

(3,273 posts)
31. How
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 09:47 AM
20 hrs ago

Its a primary. If Costello wins the primary he is the nominee in a blue state. That doesnt make any sense to say Collins automatically wins.

Costello's issue isnt that he cannot beat Collins. Its that he probably wont be the nominee. But if our democracy were more democratic, he would have just as much a chance to spread his message as any other candidate. And probably be the nominee by now if he doesn't have nearly the baggage as Platner.

questionseverything

(12,055 posts)
52. Nothing has stopped him from getting out and meeting the public
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 11:25 PM
6 hrs ago

And spread his message but for whatever reason he just hasn’t caught on with the public

Say what you will, platner has done 71 events since last august, that’s putting in the work

Response to RandySF (Reply #14)

Skittles

(173,318 posts)
41. you can be judged on the opinion
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 03:14 PM
14 hrs ago

but nothing says we can't discuss politicians not running in our own states

niyad

(134,496 posts)
50. I am fairly certain that the DU member to whom you responded knows
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 11:12 PM
6 hrs ago

the rules, since they have been here almost since the beginning. As a point of information, we are able to discuss anyone. Bashing Dems is not allowed.

PatSeg

(53,756 posts)
9. I don't understand it
Thu Jun 4, 2026, 10:17 PM
Thursday

For what we know of him, Costello sounds like an ideal candidate.

questionseverything

(12,055 posts)
30. No info on his stance on wars of choice by Israel
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 09:45 AM
20 hrs ago

We are on the edge of ww3 and he doesn’t have an opinion?

bluedigger

(17,459 posts)
4. Many of us are in trouble if we accept the testimony of exes in the court of public opinion.
Thu Jun 4, 2026, 09:49 PM
Thursday

You guys married to your high school sweetheart for five decades can just STFU.

oldmanlynn

(866 posts)
16. That's exactly what it
Thu Jun 4, 2026, 11:41 PM
Thursday

And I hope that Democrats don’t fall for it and decide to try to get him to leave the race in the circular firing squad. people in Maine appreciate him

NNguyenMD

(1,341 posts)
17. This is middle school Mickey Mouse shit
Thu Jun 4, 2026, 11:58 PM
Thursday

Democracy is under threat and people are talking about ex girlfriends

niyad

(134,496 posts)
26. Wow, so his attitudes and behaviours toward women are "mickey
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 09:22 AM
20 hrs ago

mouse shit"? His rape apologist posts are "mickey mouse shit"? Good to know where women stand.

NNguyenMD

(1,341 posts)
35. I got it, because he didn't have picture perfect views...
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 12:24 PM
17 hrs ago

At that point of time in his life, we should cede the election to the GOP and stay out of power while Democracy goes through the shedder.

niyad

(134,496 posts)
44. AND WITHOUT WOMEN THERE WOULD NOT BE ANY DEMOCRACY.
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 06:06 PM
11 hrs ago

But again, thank you for making your feelings so clear.

Irish_Dem

(82,746 posts)
29. This is the point we are making.
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 09:26 AM
20 hrs ago

We are facing the loss of our democracy.

WE NEED TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS.
WE NEED TO WANT TO WIN.

Irish_Dem

(82,746 posts)
45. I agree that democracy is at risk.
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 07:03 PM
10 hrs ago

That's why it is critical to make sure your battle strategy is sound, and well thought out.

sheshe2

(98,717 posts)
53. Mickey Mouse actually taught children morals.
Sat Jun 6, 2026, 01:11 AM
4 hrs ago

A lot of us learned from him as children and grew up better for it. Don't diss Mickey!


Mickey Mouse’s Lessons on Morals and Good Behavior

1. Good Manners and Politeness
In many stories, Mickey consistently uses polite language like “please,” “thank you,” and “sorry.” This teaches children the importance of respect and courtesy in everyday interactions

..................

4. Being Helpful and Proactive
Mickey often steps in to help others, showing that being proactive and solution-oriented is a positive trait. He’s quick to offer assistance and take initiative

...................

8 Problem-Solving Through Smart Thinking
In moral stories like Mickey Mouse Smart Thinking, Mickey uses teamwork and clear thinking to resolve issues, modeling the value of calm, logical decision-making YouTube.

In summary: Mickey Mouse’s moral lessons revolve around kindness, patience, politeness, responsibility, and positive thinking. These values are woven into his adventures, making him a timeless guide for learning good behavior.

https://www.bing.com/search?q=Mickey+mouse+spoke+about+morals+for+all&form=ANNTH1&refig=6a23a3986d71433f851f48d6e8e38cae&pc=LCTS

......................................................................................................................................................................................................

Those 'ex-girlfriends' deserve a voice just like Platner does.









NNguyenMD

(1,341 posts)
54. The people of Maine prioritize what they want in their senators
Sat Jun 6, 2026, 03:08 AM
2 hrs ago

And I’ll would bet that they are going to gravitate to the guy who supports lowering Medicare enrollment to 0 years old, who supports a moratorium on AI data centers, who supports stopping stupid wars, and who would strengthen the estate tax and increase the taxes on capital gains. I would bet money that they are dying to talk bout why those issues are life and death to them in this moment in history.

Or they can talk about relationships this guy had years ago because I suppose some people care about that more than the other stuff going on

delisen

(7,457 posts)
22. What do I know, I am just a hatchet wound.....
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 08:52 AM
20 hrs ago

Always great to learn a new synonym for women…..well maybe not so great….

bluestarone

(22,488 posts)
23. This is in the Maine voters hands!
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 09:06 AM
20 hrs ago

I trust the Democrats in Maine! (those are the ONLY ones that decide this)

MrsCheaplaugh

(290 posts)
24. Funny how allegations like this always come out of the woodwork
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 09:15 AM
20 hrs ago

when it looks like the candidate is going to win.

Polybius

(22,193 posts)
49. For consistency, did you say the same thing about Roy Moore?
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 08:50 PM
8 hrs ago

Afterall, those allegations came out when he was winning handily against Doug Jones in the special election of December, 2017.

sop

(19,586 posts)
33. "Journalists were swarming, staking out his hometown." What man (maybe some women, too) would stand up to such scrutiny?
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 09:53 AM
19 hrs ago

Platner is running against a woman (in the primary, then the general election if he wins the primary), so the opposition and corporate media are pulling out all the stops to dig up dirt that would most "concern" women voters: being a "terrible boyfriend," an all-around rake and a cad.

As Sun Tzu noted, always attack an opponent's weakest point; It's the most efficient path to victory because it requires less effort to break a vulnerable defense than to batter through a fortified one. Strange how these things work in GOP politics.

Meanwhile, down in the Lone Star State, Talarico is running against the worst sort of scumbag. Paxton's a verifiable piece of shit, makes even Trump look like a stand-up guy. So, Republicans and corporate media are going after Talarico because he's too christian, doesn't "eat enough beef," has a "vegan girlfriend," and since he's never been accused of sexual assaults, he must not be "masculine enough," maybe he's even "transgender." That's what Texas Republicans consider his most vulnerable defense.

MissKat

(243 posts)
39. take a breath take a breath
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 01:32 PM
16 hrs ago

I like Platner-- he's a good speaker.

That said, I'm remembering Al Franken. And I hated hated hated that. I still can't stand to listen to Kirsten Gillebrand.

I think the attacks on Graham Platner are nothing more than a hit job.

Why?

Because back, last century-- after soldiers came home from Viet Nam I remember being warned that a lot of these guys had been through brutal situations. Be careful. Give them room. They might be troubled. They've been through a lot.

So, the soldiers coming back from Iraq-- after seeing battle-- are they supposed to be perfect gentlemen?

It doesn't mean bad behavior should be ignored. But it has to be put into the category of maybe we need to give them some room.
Being rude isn't a crime.

I don't think Graham Platner is a perfect gentleman. But from his speeches, yes, he's a good candidate and let's not crucify him without taking the time to be thoughtful.

Now it's up to the voters in Maine.

I think he'll win.

mahina

(20,781 posts)
48. David Costello is running too
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 08:35 PM
9 hrs ago

David Costello (D)
I have no interest in Fetterman II
Yesterday
David, whose family was not well-off and who, like many in Maine, began work early and worked his way through the University of Maine, George Washington University, and the London School of Economics. And who served for more than 30 years in senior-level government and non-government positions, both in the United States, including in Maine, and abroad – implementing and managing; not simply legislating or talking about complex multi-million-dollar programs and operations.

Programs and operations that included working closely with U.S. Army, the United Nations, and foreign aid organizations overseas – and various state and local government agencies, businesses, and non-governmental organizations in Maine, Maryland, and elsewhere.

Programs and operations that resulted in: elections, campaign finance, and motor vehicle safety reforms in Maine; improved public schools and expanded assistance to children, youth and families at risk in Baltimore; the implementation of ambitious job creation, education, healthcare, crime eduction, and environmental protection programs in Maryland; and the completion of more than 4,000 peace and community building projects in conflict-torn Cambodia, Haiti, Bosnia, Croatia, Kosovo, and Serbia.

The contrasts between Senator Collins’s and David’s backgrounds and public service records couldn’t be starker, and the decision regarding whom to support in 2026 should be an easy one.



https://www.costelloforsenate.com/

Irish_Dem

(82,746 posts)
55. Costello sounds like an excellent candidate.
Sat Jun 6, 2026, 04:14 AM
1 hr ago

Someone decent, ethical, educated, hard working.

A vote for him indicates we really want to win the war against the fascists and save democracy.

mahina

(20,781 posts)
58. That's how it looks to me too!
Sat Jun 6, 2026, 05:08 AM
40 min ago

Thank goodness there's a good amount of time before the election. I hope every time platinum steps on his whatever that David Costello's excellent background for the job is made a topic instead.

Irish_Dem

(82,746 posts)
59. Exactly. If we want to save democracy we have to bring out the big guns.
Sat Jun 6, 2026, 05:32 AM
17 min ago

Not the tiny ones.

niyad

(134,496 posts)
51. NONE of the PTSD vets I counseled or have been around was a rape
Fri Jun 5, 2026, 11:23 PM
6 hrs ago

apologist, or used language like "hatchet wound" in talking about women. It is quite troublesome to think that someone who openly expresses his views on women in such terms might end up being in a position to vote on issues affecting women.

Irish_Dem

(82,746 posts)
56. I lived and worked with PTSD.
Sat Jun 6, 2026, 04:17 AM
1 hr ago

I am a military kid, Dad flew combat in three wars.
And I am a retired mental health professional.

Having PTSD does cause people to behave they way you are talking about.

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