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MineralMan

(151,580 posts)
Fri May 15, 2026, 03:33 PM Friday

Some Friends, Eh.

Over on a busy social media site I use. I mentioned that I was home from the hospital after being treated for a flare-up of COPD.

I have lots of friends there, or what that site calls people who follow you. My favorite eply about content about being glad I was home was this statement. "Well, you deserved t9hat for your filthy habit! Maybe it will get you next time." There were others that were similar. Who does that? Friends?

Nothing like that here on DU. THANK GOODNESS.

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Some Friends, Eh. (Original Post) MineralMan Friday OP
Jeez. underpants Friday #1
I wish for your healing Keepthesoulalive Friday #2
I am sorry. I will never understand the lack of empathy in so many people. LoisB Friday #3
Not helpful, just mean... some_of_us_are_sane Friday #4
Sorry that happened to you, MineralMan. HeartsCanHope Friday #5
Feel better. mr715 Friday #6
If you don't have personal FTF contact with them they could be bots. littlemissmartypants Friday #7
those kind of people can seriously go fuck themselves Skittles Friday #8
COPD . . . AverageOldGuy Friday #9
may I say, AOG Skittles Friday #23
Whatever filthy habit you have, or don't have, you are one of my favorite posters on D.U. I always save a 3Hotdogs Friday #10
Breathe well. cachukis Friday #11
Whoa, that was brutal PatSeg Friday #12
Nextdoor? FHRRK1 Friday #13
omg Skittles Friday #24
And they really are neighbors FHRRK1 Friday #30
Projection nuxvomica Friday #14
Wow, I am so sorry EuterpeThelo Friday #15
Could you imagine KT2000 Friday #16
I was thinking that about the local "Karen" I am frequently mistaken for Skittles Friday #25
Explains a lot of where this country is today BaronChocula Friday #17
I really hope you unfriend those people. And I wish you health and healing. Maraya1969 Friday #18
The cloak of anonymity gives people cover to be judgmental without TheProle Friday #19
Glad to have you back with us, MM... Totally Tunsie Friday #20
Oh, dear MineralMan Grim Chieftain Friday #21
Sounds like some of trolls MIRT deals with daily. hunter Friday #22
so sorry... markie Friday #26
That is absolutely outrageous! I'd beat 'em up for you if I could. nt CozyMystery Friday #27
Filthy Habits JoseBalow Friday #28
Ignore them MustLoveBeagles Friday #29
Who does that? peggysue2 Friday #31

Keepthesoulalive

(2,416 posts)
2. I wish for your healing
Fri May 15, 2026, 03:41 PM
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So many sites have disappeared because of toxic people. They live to disrupt and cause chaos, sounds familiar. They really don’t care about anything other than being assholes. Can you imagine being on an antique radio site and folks are arguing over which one is better Philco or Zenith. It was ugly.

HeartsCanHope

(1,764 posts)
5. Sorry that happened to you, MineralMan.
Fri May 15, 2026, 05:00 PM
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What is wrong with those people?! We all do things that are unhealthy--bet most of those people could be called

out for any number of "filthy habits"! Hope you are feeling better.

littlemissmartypants

(34,399 posts)
7. If you don't have personal FTF contact with them they could be bots.
Fri May 15, 2026, 05:04 PM
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If you do, unfollow their asses.

Skittles

(172,917 posts)
8. those kind of people can seriously go fuck themselves
Fri May 15, 2026, 05:05 PM
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what they think says nothing about you and nothing good about them

AverageOldGuy

(4,179 posts)
9. COPD . . .
Fri May 15, 2026, 05:06 PM
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. . . as you know, is tough to deal with.

I"m an old EMT -- retired two years ago after running rescue in a rural VA county for 14 years. Several COPD patients, knew them all very well, helped them through some rough times and flare-ups. We were 30 minutes away from our little rural hospital so our intervention was critical.

Glad to hear you are back home and I'm certain you will follow the doc's orders, keep your concentrator in good shape, don't let anyone or anything kink or obstruct your O2 hoses.

Call 911 at the slightest discomfort. In fact, if you have not done so, contact your 911 managers -- local poiice, fire, or rescue -- and have them make a note on your address that you are a COPD patient as well as noting any special conditions. That way, when you call 911 and we are dispatched, the dispatchers wil inform us that there's a COPD patient at that address with XXXXX going on.

Welcome back home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

3Hotdogs

(15,554 posts)
10. Whatever filthy habit you have, or don't have, you are one of my favorite posters on D.U. I always save a
Fri May 15, 2026, 05:21 PM
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Heart for you when they become available. But I do it anonymously so's you don't blush.

PatSeg

(53,571 posts)
12. Whoa, that was brutal
Fri May 15, 2026, 05:24 PM
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I was a long time smoker and I have COPD. Everyone has vices or addictions. What makes some total strangers on the Internet think they can pass judgment on people they don't know?

Of course, I was raised at a time when almost everyone I knew smoked and there was little or no concern about health risks aside from an occasional nagging cough. Some doctors even recommended smoking to calm nerves or to lose weight.

Social media has allowed me to keep in touch with old friends and family. We share photos, life events, and memories, but there are people who go online without a filter and cut down people they don't know. It is unsettling and can even be dangerous. The lack of sensitivity and accountability is stunning. It is hard to imagine what could cause such mindless cruelty.

FHRRK1

(142 posts)
30. And they really are neighbors
Fri May 15, 2026, 08:11 PM
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At first I thought fake accounts, but no, started seeing posts from people I worked with years ago, or were parents of kids I knew through school events.

We have a canyon area near us, filled with a lot of anti govt Libertarians. They had a wash run over a couple of years ago and some local was going off on the Governor, THIS IS ALL NEWSCUMS FAULT!

Now the area is next to Federal land, but even better, one of his neighbors stated, we told you not to dynamite the creek last summer so the water would flow right behind your house. All the debris caused the storm drains to clog!

Never saw another post from the guy. At a minimum I hope his neighbors forced him to move.

nuxvomica

(14,224 posts)
14. Projection
Fri May 15, 2026, 05:36 PM
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People who write or say such things have a different, filthier habit that you probably couldn't even imagine. They live in such deep shame over it they need to palliate their discomfort by lashing out at others.

EuterpeThelo

(437 posts)
15. Wow, I am so sorry
Fri May 15, 2026, 05:51 PM
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You don't deserve that at all! FWIW, I've been lurking here for 20 years so, despite the low post count, been reading your posts for about as long as that and agree with whomever it was that said you're one of my favorites. Always learn something from reading what you write.

Pray tell, if simply falling prey to the marketing machine leveraged against as by the manufacturers of a legal product that was essentially shoved down our throats and lied about for decades like good little consumers (sigh) means we deserve to die a painful, horrid death, what, might I ask, do people who, um, I dunno, r@p3 kids and cover it up or try to overthrow the government or have masked goons shoot people in the face and disappear children deserve?

Whoever said that to you, I hope they have exactly the day - and the life - they deserve. We here at DU love you!

As an aside - I'm a lifelong smoker as were both my parents. They were the BEST people I ever knew and I hope I'm anything like them.

KT2000

(22,223 posts)
16. Could you imagine
Fri May 15, 2026, 05:56 PM
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waking up every day with so much hate in their heart? They live in their own prison.

Skittles

(172,917 posts)
25. I was thinking that about the local "Karen" I am frequently mistaken for
Fri May 15, 2026, 06:47 PM
Friday

it's like she has no joy at all in her life, it is quite pitiful really

Maraya1969

(23,576 posts)
18. I really hope you unfriend those people. And I wish you health and healing.
Fri May 15, 2026, 06:18 PM
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Edit: Just remembered I stopped smoking by using a book

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It really is excellent. Stopping is easy when you think differently about it.

TheProle

(4,118 posts)
19. The cloak of anonymity gives people cover to be judgmental without
Fri May 15, 2026, 06:19 PM
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any self-reflection.

Sorry that happened to you.

Grim Chieftain

(2,064 posts)
21. Oh, dear MineralMan
Fri May 15, 2026, 06:28 PM
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I am so sorry! How awful. You deserve kindness, support and compassion at a time like this. Your DU family is with you, friend. Stay strong.

hunter

(40,862 posts)
22. Sounds like some of trolls MIRT deals with daily.
Fri May 15, 2026, 06:44 PM
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It's sad they haven't got anything better to do.

Glad you are home from the hospital.

peggysue2

(12,606 posts)
31. Who does that?
Fri May 15, 2026, 08:11 PM
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Cranks and scolds. Unfortunately, the world has too many in both categories.

Just rest up, friend, enjoy your life and ignore the gnats.

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