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xmas74

(30,093 posts)
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 10:59 PM Mar 24

Almost 4 years with no issues but tonight it's back.

My ovarian cancer has returned.
I'm just a bit frustrated,tired of putting on a calm brave front for everyone else. I just needed to say it.

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Almost 4 years with no issues but tonight it's back. (Original Post) xmas74 Mar 24 OP
Healing vibes on the way to you. SheltieLover Mar 24 #1
Sending you warmth and healing vibes Lifeafter70 Mar 24 #2
And MORE healing vibes heading your way! calimary Mar 24 #3
You did it before. You got what it takes. marble falls Mar 24 #4
Some love and hugs to you, xmas. sheshe2 Mar 24 #5
So sorry, xmas74. Holding you in my heart. Stay strong. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Mar 24 #6
Oh no leftstreet Mar 24 #7
No need for a brave front here. We are here for when you need to cry, scream or vent. Marie Marie Mar 24 #8
I'm so sorry, Xmas74. HeartsCanHope Mar 24 #9
Sending DU vibes and hope for your healing Wicked Blue Mar 24 #10
You're a survivor with another battle to fight and we're here for you so keep in touch ((🫶)) Deuxcents Mar 24 #11
That absolutely sucks. Especially making it four years cancer free. I'm a survivor Greybnk48 Mar 24 #12
You're strong mr715 Mar 24 #13
Why put on a brave front? Figarosmom Mar 24 #14
My daughter is in her twenties xmas74 Mar 25 #33
I had wondered the same thing as Figarosmom 70sEraVet Mar 25 #46
It is a silent sneaky monster, I send my support and wishes for you to beat it back again, ShazamIam Mar 24 #15
I am so sorry for your bad news Xmas74. JMCKUSICK Mar 24 #16
I'm sorry to hear this. Beat it again for another four years, then another four, then another... LoisB Mar 24 #17
I'm So Sorry, xmas! 💔 ☮️🌻🕯️🕊️💜 Cha Mar 25 #18
I'm sorry. area51 Mar 25 #19
I'm sorry, xmas74 Solly Mack Mar 25 #20
Easy for me to say... BurnDoubt Mar 25 #21
🫂 mwmisses4289 Mar 25 #22
"" AllaN01Bear Mar 25 #23
I'm sorry cate94 Mar 25 #24
Ugh holding you in the light róisín_dubh Mar 25 #25
So sorry blueknight73 Mar 25 #26
I am glad you said it. murielm99 Mar 25 #27
May you be surrounded by Emerald Green Healing Light. Bread and Circuses Mar 25 #28
..... Skittles Mar 25 #29
Oh xmas74, scream away! I am so sorry you got hit with this after four brave years of holding this monster at bay! We KitFox Mar 25 #30
love + light + peaceful healing vibes sent to you -- fierywoman Mar 25 #31
You will be in my prayers LetMyPeopleVote Mar 25 #32
I am so very sorry to read this. irisblue Mar 25 #34
Well, damn Randomthought Mar 25 #35
Oh xmas74, so sorry you are dealing with it again. summer_in_TX Mar 25 #36
Sending strength to you democrank Mar 25 #37
Ovarian cancer is one of the evil, silent ones DFW Mar 25 #38
I so hope you quickly clear it and have robust health. Big hugz. Celerity Mar 25 #39
Damn, cancer sucks. Sending healing vibes and hope it clears out quickly. ms liberty Mar 25 #40
This is tough. Prayers. Joinfortmill Mar 25 #41
We can hear whatever truth you want to share duhneece Mar 25 #42
Sending strength (and patience) your way - OddMom20 Mar 25 #43
Disappointing news for you and your family. Hope it has not spread beyond the ovaries. Fla Dem Mar 25 #44
I had a supracervical hysterectomy in April 2022 xmas74 Mar 25 #67
That devil seems to always find a way. Sending positive thoughts your way. Fla Dem Mar 25 #70
I'm so sorry. yardwork Mar 25 #45
Damn xmas74, you do WHATEVER gets you through this!!!! a kennedy Mar 25 #47
I'm so sorry. You should do this however you want to. It's not about anyone else. Maru Kitteh Mar 25 #48
So sorry Mz Pip Mar 25 #49
I hear you. mercuryblues Mar 25 #50
Yet another case of cancer!! Playingmantis Mar 25 #51
I'm so sorry, xmas. My mother had ovarian, and I know brer cat Mar 25 #52
Surrounding you in light. Nanjeanne Mar 25 #53
Love and virtual hugs from me to you, xmas 74. generalbetrayus Mar 25 #54
I am so, so sorry you are having to deal with this again. Trueblue Texan Mar 25 #55
I'm so sorry! barbtries Mar 25 #56
We're here for you so please lean on your DU family. Nevilledog Mar 25 #57
Something to give you heart to carry on Xmas popsdenver Mar 25 #58
cancer return maliaSmith Mar 25 #59
I'm sorry that you are going through this Danmel Mar 25 #60
Damn!! I am sorry to see this.. mountain grammy Mar 25 #61
Scream here all you need to. stage left Mar 25 #62
I am so sorry cally Mar 25 #63
K&R spanone Mar 25 #64
Many of us are with you. Sparkly Mar 25 #65
Cancer is awful mvd Mar 25 #66
All best wishes for you and you're brave regardless. Passages Mar 25 #68
You be you. Dear_Prudence Mar 25 #69
I am sorry to hear this!...Best wishes for a quick treatment and recovery xmas. peacebuzzard Mar 25 #71
I'm so sorry, xmas74 Laurelin Mar 25 #72

calimary

(90,740 posts)
3. And MORE healing vibes heading your way!
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:02 PM
Mar 24

And if it helps at all, you can always feel free to vent about it. Right HERE with your DU friends!

Marie Marie

(11,504 posts)
8. No need for a brave front here. We are here for when you need to cry, scream or vent.
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:24 PM
Mar 24

Please use us as needed and keep us posted on your journey. We care.

HeartsCanHope

(1,756 posts)
9. I'm so sorry, Xmas74.
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:28 PM
Mar 24

Sending healing vibes to you and lots of light and love.

I will keep you in my thoughts.

Wicked Blue

(9,011 posts)
10. Sending DU vibes and hope for your healing
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:30 PM
Mar 24

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Deuxcents

(27,663 posts)
11. You're a survivor with another battle to fight and we're here for you so keep in touch ((🫶))
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:30 PM
Mar 24

Greybnk48

(10,749 posts)
12. That absolutely sucks. Especially making it four years cancer free. I'm a survivor
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:31 PM
Mar 24

of uterine cancer and I know how you must feel. When you get back on treatment, I wish you all the luck in the world and I will be keeping you in my thoughts.
Take care and don't think you have to be calm or brave at all. Fuck cancer! Rage, cry, whatever helps you vent your fear and frustration, and then do your best to beat this!

Figarosmom

(13,265 posts)
14. Why put on a brave front?
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:35 PM
Mar 24

You've got to be pissed and scared. You should be able to vent those flings instead of denying them. Scream and stomp. Do what makes you feel better.

xmas74

(30,093 posts)
33. My daughter is in her twenties
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 01:26 AM
Mar 25

She already lost her father and saw me go through this once before. I need to keep it together for her.

70sEraVet

(5,610 posts)
46. I had wondered the same thing as Figarosmom
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 10:28 AM
Mar 25

I see now, and you are right. We owe that to our loved ones.
I wish you the best of luck in recovering.

ShazamIam

(3,184 posts)
15. It is a silent sneaky monster, I send my support and wishes for you to beat it back again,
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:41 PM
Mar 24

LoisB

(13,436 posts)
17. I'm sorry to hear this. Beat it again for another four years, then another four, then another...
Tue Mar 24, 2026, 11:53 PM
Mar 24

Cha

(320,483 posts)
18. I'm So Sorry, xmas! 💔 ☮️🌻🕯️🕊️💜
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 12:01 AM
Mar 25
I fervently Hope you can beat This like you did the last time.

BurnDoubt

(1,904 posts)
21. Easy for me to say...
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 12:03 AM
Mar 25

But squeeze the Day. Scoop up all the Love you can. I'm sending mine. I like to think it's currency in our next iteration, whatever it is. But, in this Life it is for certain, and may well be a tonic to marshal your Spirit to meet the future and prevail once again.
We're all here for you.

róisín_dubh

(12,379 posts)
25. Ugh holding you in the light
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 12:30 AM
Mar 25

Cancer is a nefarious bastard. My partner has prostate cancer and we are only just at the beginning of his journey. I wish you the very best.

murielm99

(33,081 posts)
27. I am glad you said it.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 12:39 AM
Mar 25

I hope it helps to say it here. Cancer sucks. I wish I could help.

KitFox

(595 posts)
30. Oh xmas74, scream away! I am so sorry you got hit with this after four brave years of holding this monster at bay! We
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 01:11 AM
Mar 25

are here every day and will send our collective caring for you to gather up into your arsenal to kick the hell out of it again. Cancer is the ugliest “C word” by far and away. Gentle hugs to you dear heart. 🩷

summer_in_TX

(4,259 posts)
36. Oh xmas74, so sorry you are dealing with it again.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 01:39 AM
Mar 25

This is a good place not to have to put on a brave face. We've got you. Hoping for the very best for you.


DFW

(60,423 posts)
38. Ovarian cancer is one of the evil, silent ones
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 03:49 AM
Mar 25

And you were getting so close to the « five year, outta here » mark. There’s nothing left to do but try, try again to beat it. Ten years ago, my wife was there, did that. It CAN be done, no matter how bad the initial news. I realize that it’s « easy for us to say, » but don’t give up and don’t lose hope.

duhneece

(4,525 posts)
42. We can hear whatever truth you want to share
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 09:05 AM
Mar 25

We’re a big DU family and we are with you in spirit.
Sending healing/strength/comfort and love prayers/vibes your way.

OddMom20

(70 posts)
43. Sending strength (and patience) your way -
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 09:24 AM
Mar 25

I can only imagine the frustration of not being able to “fix” this. I’m sorry you’re having to carry this weight and will be thinking of you!

Fla Dem

(27,763 posts)
44. Disappointing news for you and your family. Hope it has not spread beyond the ovaries.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 10:22 AM
Mar 25

If you haven't already had a hysterectomy, I hope your doctor suggests you do.

Been there.

xmas74

(30,093 posts)
67. I had a supracervical hysterectomy in April 2022
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 06:04 PM
Mar 25

And omentum removal. This seems to b2 attached to the surgical incision.

Fla Dem

(27,763 posts)
70. That devil seems to always find a way. Sending positive thoughts your way.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 08:57 PM
Mar 25

But.....more and more there does seem to be more winners. Pray you are one of them.

Maru Kitteh

(31,992 posts)
48. I'm so sorry. You should do this however you want to. It's not about anyone else.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 10:32 AM
Mar 25

It’s your body. It’s your life. Nobody else’s. You have my heartfelt thoughts and wishes.



brer cat

(27,676 posts)
52. I'm so sorry, xmas. My mother had ovarian, and I know
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 11:59 AM
Mar 25

how devastating "it's back" can be. Holding you in my heart.

generalbetrayus

(1,983 posts)
54. Love and virtual hugs from me to you, xmas 74.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 12:04 PM
Mar 25

Ovarian cancer took my dear sister Debby from us in 2013. I still miss her. And DON"T feel you have to put on a calm brave front for everyone else. You're sick and everyone else needs to deal with it, even your daughter!

Trueblue Texan

(4,605 posts)
55. I am so, so sorry you are having to deal with this again.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 01:53 PM
Mar 25

Scream, cuss, tear your hair out if you need to. That part will pass and you will move forward with what needs to be done. I fear the same everyday. Whatever your way forward, I am sending my thoughts of healing and peace. Take care.

popsdenver

(2,603 posts)
58. Something to give you heart to carry on Xmas
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 02:33 PM
Mar 25

TEN YEARS AGO......, my wife was diagnosed with Stage Four, "END STAGE" GAME OVER CANCER........

The Medical community kept discovering a bunch of things, almost monthly, that have kept her not only living but functioning.....

Both of us realize the Medical Researchers can't keep what we call "Hail Mary's" coming forever, but so far we have had TEN YEARS more at this time.....Decent, functioning years........

Keep up your faith, don't throw in the towel just yet Xmas.....

( Side Note: Don't expect ANY kindness from the Incredibly, outrageously, extremely, Greedy Pharmaceutical Corporations)

maliaSmith

(212 posts)
59. cancer return
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 03:15 PM
Mar 25

I'm so sorry. I hope you win your cancer fight!

O T
I'm writing here to inform all women to ignore when a doctor tells an older woman she no longer has to have or needs to get a yearly PAP test. My doctor and my sister's doctor told each of us that we no longer needed to get PAP test since we were 65 + years old. My sister believed her doctor and stopped getting the test. 5 years later, she was diagnosed with stage 4 cervical cancer and lost her life. I on the other hand, forced my doctor to refer me to a OBGYN doctor and continue to get my yearly tests, and my insurance pays for it. I just want to inform other women to never stop getting that lifesaving PAP test along with your yearly Mammogram. These tests can save your life. I just wish my sister had continued to ger her PAP tests. I miss her dearly.

mountain grammy

(29,193 posts)
61. Damn!! I am sorry to see this..
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 03:34 PM
Mar 25

wishing you all the best.. I have read of progress in the last 4 years, hopefully it will benefit you..

sure wish we had elected Hillary in 2016.. I think the "Cancer Moonshot" would have been an all out assault on this dreaded disease.

cally

(21,876 posts)
63. I am so sorry
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 04:18 PM
Mar 25

Scary but hoping that a sense of calm and hope returns without faking it.

Sparkly

(24,938 posts)
65. Many of us are with you.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 05:00 PM
Mar 25

Cancer sucks.

Please give yourself time, self-care, self-indulgence even, and spaces where you don't feel that calm, brave front is necessary.

mvd

(65,952 posts)
66. Cancer is awful
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 05:27 PM
Mar 25

I lost my dad to it at only 72. Every day I pray we cure that insidious disease. Sending healing vibes for you and you’ll beat this.

Dear_Prudence

(1,192 posts)
69. You be you.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 07:20 PM
Mar 25

I let my oncology team know that I was not ok, that I was screaming on the inside but no one could hear me. They arranged for additional support. Against the odds, I have survived round 2. I wish you well, xmas74.

peacebuzzard

(5,887 posts)
71. I am sorry to hear this!...Best wishes for a quick treatment and recovery xmas.
Wed Mar 25, 2026, 10:35 PM
Mar 25

it must be so hard on you, having to go through so much more than normal.
I wish you the speedy return to health, my friend...

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