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She was missing from several events when the other presidents and spouses were but the Jackson Memorial?
marybourg
(13,615 posts)As is her right as a private citizen.
Quiet Em
(2,829 posts)I was going to answer the question with, "living in the heads of people who don't seem to understand that she is free to live her own life as she chooses."
question everything
(52,025 posts)presidency. She should have done the same by simply sitting there.
Ms. Obama may have hated all eight years in the White House but these years allow her to live in the style that she now chooses. Her portrait in the National Gallery has inspired man young girls. Perhaps still do.
There is nothing wrong with going through life with a sense of responsibility.
marybourg
(13,615 posts)Quiet Em
(2,829 posts)Michelle Obama has stated time and time again that she is not interested in political life at all. She gave eight years. That's it. It's her life.
question everything
(52,025 posts)But, of course, you know that.
Quiet Em
(2,829 posts)"paved the way for her"? That's pretty damn demeaning and insulting. Michelle Obama is an accomplished, successful, and respected woman all on her own.
obamanut2012
(29,314 posts)Ferrets are Cool
(22,824 posts)Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. Not a position to which I would aspire.
yardwork
(69,263 posts)quaint
(4,944 posts)Last edited Sun Mar 8, 2026, 04:54 PM - Edit history (1)
Adding link to actual article by OK! Magazine
celerity
https://okmagazine.com/p/michelle-obama-skips-jesse-jackson-funeral-backlash-missing-barack/
AOL (hah!)
The former first lady responded to backlash during an episode of her "IMO" podcast, admitting: "It took everything in my power to not do the thing that was perceived as right, but do the things that was right for me, that was a hard thing for me to do."
Revealing she was practicing the "art of saying no," Michelle noted, "It's a muscle that you have to build."
And I think we suffered, because it's almost like we started training late in life to build that muscle, right? I am just now starting to build it," she continued at the time.
She added, "I want our daughters, I want the young women out there I want my girls to start practicing different strategies for saying no."
"After all that I've done in this world, if I am still showing them that I have to keep- I still have to show people that I love my country, that I'm doing the right thing, that I am always setting, going high all the time, even in the face of a lot of hypocrisy and contradiction, all I'm doing is keeping that crazy bar that our mothers and grandmothers set for us," Michelle expressed.
quaint
(4,944 posts)NewHendoLib
(61,805 posts)Solly Mack
(96,817 posts)question everything
(52,025 posts)JI7
(93,492 posts)JustAnotherGen
(37,990 posts)That's her husband's career. Not hers.
Skittles
(171,052 posts)but it's not like Jesse Jackson has a lot of funerals
Celerity
(54,188 posts)
quaint
(4,944 posts)For some reason, when I clicked on the OK! link, I coukd not find the story. I did try. Honest.😒
Celerity
(54,188 posts)fujiyamasan
(1,593 posts)Thats her right as a private citizen. Im not sure why any of this matters.
Bookreadingliberal53
(152 posts)Her best friend growing up was his daughter Santita. Santita was also Maid of Honor when The Obamas got married.
fujiyamasan
(1,593 posts)Interesting connection.
question everything
(52,025 posts)Quiet Em
(2,829 posts)You are the one who is seems to bother. She's not your wife. Move on and mind your own business.
betsuni
(28,989 posts)Like Taylor Swift. Desperately taking out the Rich People Bad Both Sides Capitalism Bad Bad rubber stamp.
PatSeg
(53,123 posts)I think she had some different goals than her husband and probably doesn't want to play the part of First Lady everyday for the rest of her life.
hlthe2b
(113,639 posts)I am really glad she is doing things for herself after working for the Nation as First Lady all those years. I hate to criticize her and I think I do understand what she is saying.
That said, her missing President Carter's memorial is more understandable to me than the incomparable leader of the civil rights movement- side by side with MLK Jr- the late Jesse Jackson. That one-truthfully surprises me and saddens me. I would have thought of any figure important to her personally, Jesse Jackson would be one and thus a memorial she'd want to attend.
MorbidButterflyTat
(4,413 posts)And what about Taylor Swift?!!
Beringia
(5,479 posts)
JI7
(93,492 posts)do this and that ?
JustAnotherGen
(37,990 posts)Her husband has been out of office for 10 years. She's a private citizen.
She's not obligated to do anything anymore.
niyad
(131,705 posts)that your OP, and all your posts in this thread, demand that Michele Obama answer to your perceived, vehemently-posted notions of her acceptable behaviour? Quite frankly, I am astounded to see the level of outrage expended here. I find it quite disconcerting.
Ilikepurple
(594 posts)If it was just the initial post, Id chalk it up to mere curiosity, but somehow this seems unduly important to the poster. I have no idea why she didnt show, but she hasnt struck me as someone who makes decisions lightly. Furthermore, she has asked nothing of me and I will afford her the same courtesy. Im not even sure what the aim is of this thread. Im sure none of us know Michelle Obamas personal situation or views on this matter. The only real options are to defend her or pile on her, so I dont know what OP wants. I am grateful for Michelle Obama and will not go down this road any further.
niyad
(131,705 posts)question everything
(52,025 posts)Just a common decency to honour a man who played an important part in her life. She was President Obama s partner during his campaign and presidency. Wasnt she? And has often appeared on posts here proposing her as a presidential candidate.
But I suppose we have different perspectives of what decency mean.
Good night. And Spring forward.
niyad
(131,705 posts)things one knows nothing about. Decency involves paying attention when one repeatedly says one has absolutely no interest in running for, or becoming president, no mattter how many times someone on an internet discussion board posts their desire for it. Decency involves knowing when to stop. remdi95
JustAnotherGen
(37,990 posts)MustLoveBeagles
(15,842 posts)And they're none of our business.
niyad
(131,705 posts)Beringia
(5,479 posts)Why not just go?
I did read that his daughters live together in LA and Obama is opening his Presidential Center at Jackson Park in Chicago on Juneteenth
Obama Presidential Center's opening date set for Juneteenth on South Side
Chicago will get its first full look at the Obama Presidential Center during a full slate of grand-opening celebrations over Juneteenth weekend, officials announced Saturday.
A dedication ceremony will be held June 18 for former President Barack Obamas namesake museum and campus in Jackson Park, which will open to the public on June 19 after a decade of planning, fundraising, delays and construction. Additional community celebrations will be held on campus June 20-21.
The 44th president, who launched his political career in Chicago and has a home in Kenwood, announced the opening date in a social media video.
Here on the South Side of Chicago, hope is getting a permanent home. Starting on June 19, you can visit the Obama Presidential Center, Obama said. This is not a monument to the past; it is a living destination for people who refuse to accept the status quo. If you feel that way, this is your invitation to join us.
https://chicago.suntimes.com/chicago/2026/03/07/obama-presidential-center-opening-juneteenth-chicago
milestogo
(22,964 posts)It was pretty nasty.
However it has since transpired Jackson actually used a far more offensive term which until very recently went unreported.
https://www.theguardian.com/world/deadlineusa/2008/jul/17/newonethefullforceofjess
MineralMan
(151,096 posts)Why do you think she has a responsibility to answer personal questions you ask?
I'm sorry, but her decisions are hers alone to make. As far as I know, she is not required to explain any of her decisions to you, to me, or to anyone else.
Pretty simple, I think, but you continue to ask the same question downthread as well. Why?
