Healing vibes on the way to you.

My virtual arms are always around you

Take care you yourself and come back soon

You are so very loved

Even at any age, it's a shock when it happens so suddenly. Take care of yourself, it's important right now.

So very Sorry what you're bravely going through, Maeve.. I know it's hard. saying goodbye to our Loved ones.

Prayers coming your way.

I took care of my mom for 5 years and she died as I shifted her in bed. They were the same age. I am sorry to hear about the fall I can only hope she died without pain.

Love to you and yours.

Very sorry to read this. Take care of yourself!

It’s hard. It’s really hard. I’m so sorry…

I love that you and your mother were so close.

the good memories of your Mom always comfort you.

And I chose the user name to honor the great Irish queen buried at Knocknarea. It's a beautiful view from her cairn

Please take all the time you need for yourself and family, and know we're sorry for your treasured loss.
God Speed and may your memories keep you.

You were there for your mom, to cover all her needs. You were a good and devoted daughter. So take some pride in that. You gave of your love and your time, AND your attention to her ills and her needs. You probably helped ease her through her deteriorating physical condition.

Be proud of your work, your kindness, your generosity, and your selflessness, so often putting her first. People go to Heaven doing that kind of thing.

You are going through so much now. Please take care of yourself. I am thinking of you over the miles.

Sending prayers for peace and comfort. It is very tough to lose a parent.

For you to come to calm within your grief

Ready with the virtual hugs or need to vent.

I saw my mother slowly die from cancer, and felt relieved for her when she finally transitioned. But, that didn't make it any easier for me to deal with.
Life does go on, and love will always be there for you. Remember, she's left you, but isn't gone. She will always remain in your heart, and in your memories.
Love,

Patphil

I love how you put it:

“Life does go on, and love will always be there for you. Remember, she's left you, but isn't gone. She will always remain in your heart, and in your memories.“

Beautifully written. So eloquent, and so true.

It will be a process and I wish you well. Hugs, too!

your dear Mother. 💔

I am sorry for your loss. 95 is quite an accomplishment. My dad lived to that age. You are right in that there are a lot of details, etc. to attend to. Give yourself some grace and time to process. All of the chores will be there when you're ready.

Sending hugs.

Your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as you need. Remember, there is ALWAYS someone here.

not only will I grieve her, but there will be a giant empty place where all the caregiving activities were before.

My prayers are with you.

Expected or not, I’m sure this loss hits hard. Be well.

a lot of time almost every day during her final months in a nursing home, because the staff there had so much trouble coping with her very rare swallowing disorder, achalasia, which some of the aides had never heard of and only one specialist in the city had any expertise with). It wasn't as sudden a loss for me, of course, but losing a parent is hard, and losing a loved one you've been a caregiver for is hard, and the combination is wrenching.

We're here for you. I'm praying your mother will be able to send you some signs to help comfort you.

I went to look for what she should be buried in and found a dress in her closet that she never wore.
Still has tags on it...from Sears. Have no idea when she bought it, don't remember ever seeing it before.
Looks like the sort of outfit a mother-of-the-bride would wear.
That's what she'll be buried in.

I'm continuing to pray for more signs for you.

My youngest aunt, the last of her generation of the family, crossed over 18 months ago. For years before that I'd sometimes talked about signs with a first cousin of mine, who's never quite shaken off worries about the afterlife, including Purgatory, that our Catholic upbringing had left her with (I'd left the Church in my teens). Like the rest of us, my cousin was feeling shattered by the loss. But a couple of days after our aunt passed, my cousin told me she'd been alone at home when she suddenly heard, very clearly, her wonderful, unmistakable laugh. I'd told my cousin earlier that our loved ones would have crossed over to a family reunion and party, and it seemed like a perfect way to show that. I'll admit I felt envy that my cousin heard that laugh again, but I didn't need the reassurance that our loved ones on the other side are fine. I loved just hearing about it.

I believe your mom will be helping comfort you, sending you strength, and I hope you'll be able to clearly sense the peace and joy she's experiencing now, and her gratitude for all you did for her.

I’m glad your Mother is at peace, I’m wishing it for you as well.

My heart goes out to you and I wish you comfort and strength for the challenges ahead.

To you and your family, Maeve.❤️

I was in the same position as you, but only for 6 years. I'm thankful she had you for that long. It takes its toll, be kind to yourself.

for your loss.

Send healing your way

I knew you were taking care of your mom and I hope you are consoled in the fact that no matter how difficult it might have been, that you got to spend as much time as you could with her.

All my love and sympathies to you and your family for your loss and I know what you did was much appreciated.

After I get thru the funeral and taking care of her affairs, my week is going to feel so different. Maybe I'll get the house clean,

Or not.

I know from experience that in order to tackle that, you probably need to pick just one thing to do each day and not get overwhelmed by what needs to be done.

family was DEFINITELY a needed thing to have. It took us about a year to get her affairs straight, get the house cleared and prepped for sale (e.g., she had a baby grand piano that needed to be taken care of), and finally get the house sold... and having one of my sisters' hubby working in real estate was a definite benefit for what needed to be done.

But she dealt with five banks across two counties and has two pensions plus Social Security and a couple of insurance policies and...oy.

and my mom's financial stuff was my wheelhouse for management/notifications, etc. She was a widow who was getting SS & a survivor's annuity (my dad was a fed before he passed). I kept a spreadsheet for paying all her utilities until the house was sold. My other sister's hubby had a lawyer friend who helped to take care of the will/estate/taxes, etc. It's one of those things where you have to really sit down and plot out so many parts and pieces.

Take care of yourself.

Prayers coming your way.