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Shambala

(259 posts)
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:17 PM Dec 29

Are Christmas cards no longer a thing?

We used to get 40+ Christmas cards a year and this year 16 - about the same as the past few years. I remember my pop getting a zillion cards that he would hang and cover the hutch and adjoining walls. I have about 50 on my Christmas cards list I send to.

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Are Christmas cards no longer a thing? (Original Post) Shambala Dec 29 OP
i get one from my cpa... ret5hd Dec 29 #1
I got one from Sal's pizza. Shambala Dec 29 #2
No longer a thing for most people Sanity Claws Dec 29 #3
I get 1 back for every 3 I send Johonny Dec 29 #4
Yeah, about the same return ratio for me Shambala Dec 30 #21
Price Maninacan Dec 29 #5
I've sent cards I got from Estate Sales the last 10 years. maxsolomon Dec 30 #37
The younger families send cards with photos of them and their kids on them, i love them. dem4decades Dec 29 #6
Yes I mostly get these types newdeal2 Dec 29 #13
I have a couple of relatives that send Shambala Dec 30 #22
A lot of people I know have stopped sending them completely, or send them only to their highplainsdem Dec 29 #7
Mail delivery is not unreliable. maxsolomon Dec 30 #38
I've received enough mail late and heard enough about USPS packages highplainsdem Dec 30 #41
I don't know where you live, but maybe your issue is local. maxsolomon Dec 30 #42
I'm in the center of the country, but I've heard about problems like the ones I've run into both from highplainsdem Dec 30 #44
Cards and packages I sent out on 12/15 are just now being received 15 days later. Totally Tunsie Dec 31 #54
Media mail is still mail Conjuay Dec 31 #69
Media Mail has never failed me. maxsolomon Dec 31 #70
Not really. Ocelot II Dec 29 #8
It requires hours and hours of work. Few women have the bandwidth Maru Kitteh Dec 29 #9
I'm the one who does it in my house. I still believe it's important to my elder relatives. maxsolomon Dec 30 #39
I only send them to people who care OnionPatch Dec 31 #61
That is why I prefer a quick few words and then sealed. OldBaldy1701E Dec 31 #64
Not so much. Ms. Toad Dec 29 #10
fewer every year, and not just people dying Skittles Dec 29 #11
They have 50 cent Hallmark cards at Dollar Tree.nt helpisontheway Dec 31 #56
I guess it depends - on age, personal tradition, available time, number of friends and/or family NewHendoLib Dec 29 #12
I still send them out to family and friends Bayard Dec 29 #14
Most that i received this year, were from businesses BlueWaveNeverEnd Dec 30 #18
My wife and I send them ITAL Dec 29 #15
My 88-year-old mother still sends Christmas cards. LudwigPastorius Dec 30 #16
One of my cousins would not only tout the highlights of the past year Shambala Dec 30 #25
Yes Rebl2 Dec 30 #27
I've always hated those "brag" cards. StarryNite Dec 31 #55
I havent mailed a card in years BlueWaveNeverEnd Dec 30 #17
I spent about $75 on postage alone. notinkansas Dec 30 #19
Heathens. Trump will issue an executive order to restore this sacred tradition dalton99a Dec 30 #20
Come to think of it I don't know if we got any this year fujiyamasan Dec 30 #23
We haven't been able to coordinate a family photo to use on a card the past few years Shambala Dec 30 #24
I think Rebl2 Dec 30 #26
Only family in other states to whom I'm including a Christmas check. tavernier Dec 30 #28
My wife and I have been sending fewer and fewer. Life in the Trumpocene has made us increasingly jaded and cynical. Borogove Dec 30 #29
Waste of money and paper in my opinion... FascismIsDeath Dec 30 #30
I had some custom ones made this year. gay texan Dec 30 #31
My wife and I are experiencing the same thing. patphil Dec 30 #32
I quit social media several years ago Shambala Dec 30 #33
Crazy where the years have gone. patphil Dec 30 #50
We got a ton of them this year bif Dec 30 #34
I stopped sending them six years ago. I don't blame people for dropping me off their list for not reciprocating theirs, chia Dec 30 #35
We just Zelle things Sympthsical Dec 30 #36
I still send them Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Dec 30 #40
People with kids send them Renew Deal Dec 30 #43
I like the custom photo cards Shambala Dec 30 #46
Yes and I'm glad. It became a chore. CTyankee Dec 30 #45
I don't do them. Haven't for years. JustKay Dec 30 #47
I send them out. Ecards don't do it for me. n/t valleyrogue Dec 30 #48
A few years ago i received an ecard Shambala Dec 30 #49
I sent a few this year, Pinback Dec 30 #51
Seems to be fading out vapor2 Dec 30 #52
I haven't sent one in years, I got one from a doc03 Dec 30 #53
I work for Hallmark (not the Hallmark store) and we sell a lot of cards helpisontheway Dec 31 #57
My wife still sends them out. Emile Dec 31 #58
We sent out close to 80 of them. DFW Dec 31 #59
A card from the White House! Very nice! Shambala Dec 31 #71
I send a few out to friends who live far away. Dulcinea Dec 31 #60
Most of my family uses Facebook now to send Xmas greetings Kaleva Dec 31 #62
Actually, I think we got more this year than the past few years. Around 40 onenote Dec 31 #63
I sent out six. OldBaldy1701E Dec 31 #65
Lol! I got one card. It was actually a pleasant surprise. ecstatic Dec 31 #66
Along the same lines- Conjuay Dec 31 #67
Do people's vacation photos count? Iris Dec 31 #68

Shambala

(259 posts)
2. I got one from Sal's pizza.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:24 PM
Dec 29

I guess I ordered something from him once. I’ll make sure to order another pizza 🍕 from him soon.

Sanity Claws

(22,339 posts)
3. No longer a thing for most people
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:25 PM
Dec 29

I haven't sent a card in about 20 years. I get cards only from businesses these days.

Johonny

(25,506 posts)
4. I get 1 back for every 3 I send
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:29 PM
Dec 29

Mostly the older generations still do them.

Younger people post everything online.

Shambala

(259 posts)
21. Yeah, about the same return ratio for me
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:48 AM
Dec 30

But all in the spirit of spreading holiday cheer.

Maninacan

(216 posts)
5. Price
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:30 PM
Dec 29

6$ each . Too expensive. A lot of crude themes. Hallmark seems to have all the business and nothing they make impresses me.

maxsolomon

(38,206 posts)
37. I've sent cards I got from Estate Sales the last 10 years.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:23 PM
Dec 30

I'm out now.

If people send cards at all, they mostly send photo-montage postcards.

dem4decades

(13,703 posts)
6. The younger families send cards with photos of them and their kids on them, i love them.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:35 PM
Dec 29

It's so great to see then get older. I hope they never stop.

newdeal2

(4,812 posts)
13. Yes I mostly get these types
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 10:16 PM
Dec 29

Basically a postcard with family photos and a message. I never get traditional cards unless it is with a gift or from some local business.

Shambala

(259 posts)
22. I have a couple of relatives that send
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:51 AM
Dec 30

long written updates of what occurred over the past year included in their cards with a collage of photos. It’s nice to see.

highplainsdem

(60,097 posts)
7. A lot of people I know have stopped sending them completely, or send them only to their
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:36 PM
Dec 29

closest friends and family, and maybe a boss or important coworker.

It's become more expensive, it can be time-consuming getting the right assortment of cards if you know who prefers what (traditional religious, traditional nonreligious, funny, cats at Christmas, kittens at Christmas, puppies at Christmas, etc). Most of us have handwriting that can make deciphering even a short note a challenge. Mail delivery is unreliable.

maxsolomon

(38,206 posts)
38. Mail delivery is not unreliable.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:27 PM
Dec 30

I sent 40 cards this year and had 1 returned.

I sent about 40 packages via Media Mail in 2025 and all of them made it to the addressee without issues, in less time than promised.

Where are you sending things that the USPS is "unreliable"?

highplainsdem

(60,097 posts)
41. I've received enough mail late and heard enough about USPS packages
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:57 PM
Dec 30

arriving very late, sometimes after being sent halfway acrosd the.country in the wrong direction, to not have as much confidence in the mail as I used to have. I've also had neighbors' mail misdelivered to me and mail sent to me misdelivered to them. I've had packages sent to me via USPS stuck in mail hubs sometimes for several days. And when I've used search engines to see if others are running into similar problems, I've found confirmation of that.

I will say I haven't had USPS packages sent to me, or that I sent, completely lost. But I know others who have.

I've received Christmas cards sent several days before Christmas after Christmas, even when sent from a neighboring state or nearby city.

maxsolomon

(38,206 posts)
42. I don't know where you live, but maybe your issue is local.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 03:13 PM
Dec 30

I experience nothing like that in the PNW.

highplainsdem

(60,097 posts)
44. I'm in the center of the country, but I've heard about problems like the ones I've run into both from
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 03:24 PM
Dec 30

people nearby and from people in other regions. Mail delivery became noticeably worse starting several years ago.

DeJoy has been rightly blamed for a lot of the problems.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2020_United_States_Postal_Service_crisis

Totally Tunsie

(11,584 posts)
54. Cards and packages I sent out on 12/15 are just now being received 15 days later.
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 12:27 AM
Dec 31

Sent out 2 small packages on 12/15 from South Carolina to New England. One that went through Greensboro, NC, was delivered on 12/22. The second is currently still in Olathe, KANSAS (!!), this after being untrackable (not scanned anywhere) for more than a week. Yeah..."unreliable" sounds about right.

Two other large packages with multiple gifts enclosed were sent by UPS and arrived in two days.

maxsolomon

(38,206 posts)
70. Media Mail has never failed me.
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 12:27 PM
Dec 31

I don't understand why so many others have terrible experiences.

I purchase and print all my labels online, too.

Ocelot II

(129,163 posts)
8. Not really.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:42 PM
Dec 29

People send e-cards or other electronic greetings. It would be nice to help out USPS but I think a lot of people regard cards as just more wasteful paper. I don't send them, don't get them except from a few businesses. I do remember when my family would get a zillion of them, and my mother spent hours addressing cards to send out.

Maru Kitteh

(31,273 posts)
9. It requires hours and hours of work. Few women have the bandwidth
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:48 PM
Dec 29

for such an endeavor anymore on top of every damn other thing we are expected to do, all day, every day. I love the idea of Christmas cards. I can’t. These days, I barely feel like a living thing at all, and I doubt that makes for cheerful holiday greetings, and I no longer have the energy to lie.



maxsolomon

(38,206 posts)
39. I'm the one who does it in my house. I still believe it's important to my elder relatives.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:28 PM
Dec 30

It does take a significant effort - I think I spent 3 hours on it.

OnionPatch

(6,313 posts)
61. I only send them to people who care
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 07:29 AM
Dec 31

That’s like three people. Everyone else is glad to get rid of that chore and just text, FaceTime or email a greeting.

OldBaldy1701E

(10,225 posts)
64. That is why I prefer a quick few words and then sealed.
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 09:08 AM
Dec 31

I am afraid that the 'floodgates' would open.

Ms. Toad

(38,312 posts)
10. Not so much.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 10:04 PM
Dec 29

I haven't sent Christmas cards in years. One of my brothers sends them every year. I typically receive about 4 cards a year.

NewHendoLib

(61,595 posts)
12. I guess it depends - on age, personal tradition, available time, number of friends and/or family
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 10:11 PM
Dec 29

Been married 45 years - when we were young, we received and sent dozens and dozens. This year - received none, sent none.

Bayard

(28,646 posts)
14. I still send them out to family and friends
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 11:26 PM
Dec 29

This year, I only mailed them out to people who were in other parts of the country. Others I knew I'd be seeing soon, I just put cards in with their gifts.

Still, I only got a few this year. Not even worth hanging up. Pretty sad, compared to yesteryear.

ITAL

(1,267 posts)
15. My wife and I send them
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 11:32 PM
Dec 29

I think we do roughly fifty a year (only got about fifteen back). Actually we do personalized cards, plus a general letter where where we sum up our year. I guess we're old school. Almost all the ones we get from other people are from folks in their 60s or older (we're in our 40s).

I guess we're old souls.

LudwigPastorius

(14,205 posts)
16. My 88-year-old mother still sends Christmas cards.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 12:34 AM
Dec 30

Last edited Tue Dec 30, 2025, 01:13 AM - Edit history (1)

I never have.


One thing I've noticed over the years is that a lot of people use the annual Christmas card to take a aren't-we-incredible victory lap.

"Little Susie got accepted to Harvard, Billy spent his time this year making boutonnières for the homeless, Bob hand whittled a Jet Ski for summer fun at our exclusive lakefront property, while I completed the Multi-Engine Rating for my pilot's license!"

Shambala

(259 posts)
25. One of my cousins would not only tout the highlights of the past year
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:27 AM
Dec 30

In her annual letter but sometimes would include innocent family dirt/drama going on. We always look forward to that card

Rebl2

(17,417 posts)
27. Yes
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:30 AM
Dec 30

some do that and usually it’s family members I am not that close to. Really find it kind of boring.

StarryNite

(11,973 posts)
55. I've always hated those "brag" cards.
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 01:03 AM
Dec 31

Why do some people feel the need to try to impress others? Boring.

notinkansas

(1,299 posts)
19. I spent about $75 on postage alone.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 12:46 AM
Dec 30

I think we will have to reduce the names on that list next year.

dalton99a

(92,179 posts)
20. Heathens. Trump will issue an executive order to restore this sacred tradition
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 01:08 AM
Dec 30

"Make Americans Send Christmas Cards Again"







fujiyamasan

(1,234 posts)
23. Come to think of it I don't know if we got any this year
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 04:13 AM
Dec 30

But it does require some effort.

You need to first get a photo taken and a card made. You also need a person’s physical addresses, but even if you have that , you likely have their phone number already anyways…

And since you can send photos that way…

I’m not saying it’s the same. It’s always a pleasant and unique feeling to receive a physical greeting from someone (especially if they’re a close friend or family member), but we’re all pressed for time now.

Shambala

(259 posts)
24. We haven't been able to coordinate a family photo to use on a card the past few years
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:18 AM
Dec 30

so I just had them choose and send me a few photos from over the past year I could assemble into a collage.

Rebl2

(17,417 posts)
26. I think
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:27 AM
Dec 30

the younger generation isn’t interested in sending cards or spending money and stamps. I think older people are becoming the same way. Some cards are pretty expensive and have been for years, and stamp prices going up doesn’t help. I only sent cards to immediate family and a couple friends because I was I’ll.

tavernier

(14,278 posts)
28. Only family in other states to whom I'm including a Christmas check.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:42 AM
Dec 30

Close by friends and family get actual presents. I mailed four cards this year, 17 days before Christmas. One arrived three days after Christmas, another arrived two days after I mailed it. Go figure.

Borogove

(540 posts)
29. My wife and I have been sending fewer and fewer. Life in the Trumpocene has made us increasingly jaded and cynical.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 12:20 PM
Dec 30

FascismIsDeath

(54 posts)
30. Waste of money and paper in my opinion...
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 12:27 PM
Dec 30

I don't send cards for anything and I don't want them sent to me. I started trashing them years ago, just more junk on top of all the junk I don't need. If you want to drop me a line for the holiday or whatever, call me or text me.

patphil

(8,734 posts)
32. My wife and I are experiencing the same thing.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 12:47 PM
Dec 30

This year we got about 1/2 the number of cards we used to get...only about 15 or so.
Back in the 50's, my mother would send out a couple hundred cards each year; most of them with short notes in them. She would start working on them in November. She kept a notebook with the names and addresses, and columns for each year. If we received a card, she would check it off. Several years with no card would get you dropped from the book. It was a very social thing.
Now people communicate in different ways. Still by phone, but also by text message, e-mail and social media.
The Christmas card was a way of keeping the connection between people open; to let them know we were thinking of them. Letters did the same for the rest of the year.
Letters have pretty much disappeared now, and Christmas cards are headed down the same track.

I think this was the first year my wife didn't have any desire to send out cards. Some was because of death in the family (3), but also because of the feeling that next year would be even worse than this year.

Shambala

(259 posts)
33. I quit social media several years ago
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:10 PM
Dec 30

(unless DU counts as social media) so I don't get to see family photos people usually post. It's nice to get a family photo Christmas card to see how friends' kids and grandkids are growing.

Speaking of letters, I was thinking last night of to whom and when i last physically wrote out and mailed a letter. I think it was 1983 or 84 I sent my last letter to a friend who had gone off to college. Crazy where the years have gone.

chia

(2,752 posts)
35. I stopped sending them six years ago. I don't blame people for dropping me off their list for not reciprocating theirs,
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:16 PM
Dec 30

so of course the numbers of cards I've gotten has gradually dropped down to about ten or so cards. I'm okay with that. My years of laboring over Christmas cards is over and I'm okay with that too.

I'm not on social media but so many people are, and can keep up with family/friend news and photos all year long so the Christmas card photos and updates seem less necessary. My family and friends and I stay connected through texting, FaceTime and calls, so I don't feel out of the loop at all.

Sympthsical

(10,861 posts)
36. We just Zelle things
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:21 PM
Dec 30

I used to mail cards if money was involved, but going to the store to get a card, then UPS store because I have no stamps, then the ATM for cash (because that is not a thing that exists in my world). I have a checkbook . . . somewhere. No idea.

Or, tap on my phone real quick to pay the distant children.

We lead a cashless existence and don't use the mail. I'm straining to recall the last time we've had to mail a bill or anything at all really. It's been a while. Mortgage, taxes, utilities, insurance. It's all online or with a phone app.

Social media has also changed this. My mom used to get dozens of cards with little notes, pictures, etc. Just to update the family you haven't seen in a while.

Now I know exactly what Phyllis is doing, whether I want to or not. Sometimes daily. It's Starbucks, Phyllis! I don't need to see it!

Renew Deal

(84,709 posts)
43. People with kids send them
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 03:22 PM
Dec 30

They are custom made and have pictures of kids, pets, and families. Other than that, I don’t think they are very common. I don’t believe that people spend time writing a stack of cards for the holidays.

Shambala

(259 posts)
46. I like the custom photo cards
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 06:45 PM
Dec 30

and comparing the changes from year to year.

I still get an old school card from one of my cousins who only writes his and his wife's name. No personalized greeting or message other than the canned message that comes with the card...just their names. At least I know they're still alive

Shambala

(259 posts)
49. A few years ago i received an ecard
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 07:53 PM
Dec 30

so I could print it out and put it with the other cards. I didn't bother.

Pinback

(13,505 posts)
51. I sent a few this year,
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 08:28 PM
Dec 30

some funny or satirical, others heartwarming and sincere, depending on the addressee. One of my favorite funny ones was an ancient-looking pseudo-woodcut depicting the 3 Wise Men giving the baby Jesus Eggo waffles with the headline “MANGER THINGS” (in the same font as the “Stranger Things” series.

It was most appreciated by the recipient.

doc03

(38,841 posts)
53. I haven't sent one in years, I got one from a
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 09:55 PM
Dec 30

neighbor, a couple car dealers and my insurance agent.

helpisontheway

(5,367 posts)
57. I work for Hallmark (not the Hallmark store) and we sell a lot of cards
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 06:15 AM
Dec 31

I only receive a few in the mail. However, I sell a ton of cards in my accounts during Christmas,Valentines and Mother’s Day.

DFW

(59,747 posts)
59. We sent out close to 80 of them.
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 06:53 AM
Dec 31

Got close to that back. Last year, we even got one from the Biden White House, as usual (when a Democrat is in office, that is). Not this year, maybe someone else is living there now?

It’s true that almost all of them came from older friends and colleagues, but at 73, that’s only normal. Our friends of 40 or 50 years ago are pushing 73 as well. The government types and few businesses span the full range, of course.

Shambala

(259 posts)
71. A card from the White House! Very nice!
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 05:46 PM
Dec 31

My wife got one from the Obama White House years ago. That one featured prominently on our mantel.

Dulcinea

(9,683 posts)
60. I send a few out to friends who live far away.
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 07:03 AM
Dec 31

I give away to Buy Nothing a lot more cards than I send. I have a boxful from charities that I think we've had since the 90s. We mostly get them from businesses these days.

onenote

(45,990 posts)
63. Actually, I think we got more this year than the past few years. Around 40
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 08:56 AM
Dec 31

We stopped sending cards, relying on social media to express holiday greetings to friends and relatives, but we've discussed going back to sending cards in the future.

ecstatic

(35,012 posts)
66. Lol! I got one card. It was actually a pleasant surprise.
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 09:14 AM
Dec 31

In my neck of the woods, Christmas cards have been replaced with Christmas texts.

Conjuay

(2,904 posts)
67. Along the same lines-
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 09:17 AM
Dec 31

My sister mentioned she only gets one 'thank you' note out of the 10 or so gift cards she sends to the kiddies in the family.

Iris

(16,847 posts)
68. Do people's vacation photos count?
Wed Dec 31, 2025, 09:26 AM
Dec 31

Sorry to be grinchy but I really hate those cards. It feels weird to throw them out and I have no desire to feature multiple families on my mantle

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