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no_hypocrisy

(53,171 posts)
Sat Sep 27, 2025, 07:01 AM 19 hrs ago

Impending Government Shutdown

This reminds me of the scam my father (!) ran on me when I wanted to attend law school.

I didn't have the money for tuition, so I intended to apply for a scholarship and I would have been granted one.

But my father told me not to get the scholarship, that he would pay for everything including books, etc.

As it was my father, I relied on his promise.

But it didn't happen that way.

I was working at his office and there was an inter-office scuffle between co-workers. I wanted nothing to do with it and flew under the radar -- or so I thought.

Three weeks before law school started, my father insisted that I go out to dinner with him. From past experience, this wasn't going to be good. The MO was to drop something bad on me in a public venue.

And so I went. There was thick tension in the air. And my father dropped the bomb. He claimed I was the impetus behind the office scuffle, and therefore he was forced to consider premature retirement. And premature retirement meant no funds for law school. Obviously, that meant no law school for me.

I saw through the charade. I was blameless for his office politics. He wanted to punish someone, and it was me. He expected a meltdown with my expected indignation and outrage. I wasn't going to give him what he wanted. I had enough.

I figured, OK, no law school this year; I'd apply for a scholarship for the next year.

Let's say the meal ended with FAFO. I amiably agreed that was his prerogative. He wasn't expecting that and I think that made him angrier.

The parallels between the prospective shutdown and my father are this:

1. Past federal funding to states was reliable and they set their budgets with the expected money. Not necessarily this time. I relied on my father for the tuition; he withdrew it; and it was used as a weapon against me.

2. TSF is going to make Democrats and the states the scapegoat just like my father tried to make me the reason why he wasn't going to fund my law school tuition after I didn't apply for other funding and I relied upon his promise.


Postscript: This stuff from TSF and his republican accomplices is giving me PTSD.


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Impending Government Shutdown (Original Post) no_hypocrisy 19 hrs ago OP
It sounds like your father was petty like Trump. Buckeyeblue 19 hrs ago #1
By calling out my father for what appeared to playing chicken with me, no_hypocrisy 18 hrs ago #2
What an interesting story. Thank you for sharing it. Buckeyeblue 16 hrs ago #4
YW. Let's say it helped to build my character. no_hypocrisy 16 hrs ago #5
No JustAnotherGen 17 hrs ago #3

Buckeyeblue

(6,031 posts)
1. It sounds like your father was petty like Trump.
Sat Sep 27, 2025, 07:22 AM
19 hrs ago

Did you end up going to law school? What happened to your father.

no_hypocrisy

(53,171 posts)
2. By calling out my father for what appeared to playing chicken with me,
Sat Sep 27, 2025, 07:54 AM
18 hrs ago

I hung back silently and waited.

I suppose my father had time to consider the prospective fractures in his marriage to my mother when she would discover his treachery. And it wouldn't be good.

I didn't contact the law school to advise that I had to drop out b/c of the tuition issue.

Three days before the first class of orientation, my father let me know that I could pick up the check. Which I did.

I went through three grueling years of law school, taking six checks from my father with a cursory "Thank you".

I did tell my mother what happened and it shocked her to no end.

At my graduation, my entire family was dour. I didn't care. I graduated.

My father met his karma in 2014. He rear-ended a van at a gas pump. His car was older and didn't have an air bag. His chest hit the steering column. He refused medical attention. And he certainly didn't tell me or my siblings about the accident. For a week, he had an undiagnosed slow bleed into his chest b/c of a partially dissected aorta due to the trauma. And he died of a heart attack as a result. (And yes, I would have helped him had I known.)

JustAnotherGen

(37,103 posts)
3. No
Sat Sep 27, 2025, 08:52 AM
17 hrs ago

If we all - and I mean ALL of us repeat and believe that pubs have:

The WH
SCOTUS
Sen
House
5th Estate aka Legacy Media.

How our Sens and Reps handle themselves will inform us on WHO is capable of withstanding Global lower case 'concern' post the Regime. They will show us who can be cruel and withstand our political enemies.

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