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applegrove

(128,383 posts) Mon Sep 22, 2025, 09:24 PM Monday

I'm trying to post the meme again.

Tried to get my real ID. I had my license, my SS card and my birth certificate.

I was not allowed to get my real ID because my birth name is different than my married name. Now I have to go dig up a marriage certificate. You know who wouldnâ€™t have to do this? A man.

Never change your last name.
— Jess Piper (@piperformissouri.bsky.social) 2025-09-22T17:36:55.123Z

Trans people too change their names and need ID for elections I would bet.

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I'm trying to post the meme again. (Original Post) applegrove Monday OP

anyone who gives up their identity would have to do this Skittles Monday #1

As far as I know, PXR-5 Monday #2

But you might need it to vote. Ms. Toad Monday #3

I think Real ID is also needed for entering Federal buildings FullySupportDems Monday #5

So true FullySupportDems Monday #4

My wife changed her name to her mother's maiden name when we married central scrutinizer Monday #6

Cool. Love it when the ancestors are included in family names. applegrove Monday #7

I kept my maiden name since I'm the Luciferous Monday #8

I've had my married name for 58 years. Been divorced for 55 years. I had to remember where sinkingfeeling Monday #9

Now there is something popsdenver Monday #10

took me literal months to get my RealID slightlv Tuesday #11

I used my passport to show my current name Tree Lady Tuesday #12

Skittles

(167,728 posts)

1. anyone who gives up their identity would have to do this

Reply to applegrove (Original post)

Mon Sep 22, 2025, 09:27 PM

Monday

yup

PXR-5

(546 posts)

2. As far as I know,

Reply to applegrove (Original post)

Mon Sep 22, 2025, 09:30 PM

Monday

You don't need real ID if you have a passport. It's just the TSA that says you need it or a passport to fly.

Ms. Toad

(37,725 posts)

3. But you might need it to vote.

Reply to PXR-5 (Reply #2)

Mon Sep 22, 2025, 09:32 PM

Monday

In some places, passports are not acceptable identification for voting. (Ohio changed recently to allow it - but a passport was not previously allowed as voting ID.)

FullySupportDems

(375 posts)

5. I think Real ID is also needed for entering Federal buildings

Reply to PXR-5 (Reply #2)

Mon Sep 22, 2025, 09:42 PM

Monday

I don't remember if passports will work.

FullySupportDems

(375 posts)

4. So true

Reply to applegrove (Original post)

Mon Sep 22, 2025, 09:33 PM

Monday

My first marriage license wasn't even good enough, because it didn't have a raised seal. The signatures on the original document didn't mean a thing. Cost over $100 to order the two marriage licenses and one divorce decree for my Real ID.

Don't change your name when u get married.

central scrutinizer

(12,618 posts)

6. My wife changed her name to her mother's maiden name when we married

Reply to applegrove (Original post)

Mon Sep 22, 2025, 09:56 PM

Monday

Her immigrant father had changed his name to a more “American” last name so that was the name on her birth certificate. Her mother was also an immigrant. She was proud of her ethnic heritage and didn’t want a vanilla last name. There was paperwork involved but she did it. We passed that name along to our daughter and she has my last name as a middle name.

applegrove

(128,383 posts)

7. Cool. Love it when the ancestors are included in family names.

Reply to central scrutinizer (Reply #6)

Mon Sep 22, 2025, 10:23 PM

Monday

Luciferous

(6,503 posts)

8. I kept my maiden name since I'm the

Reply to applegrove (Original post)

Mon Sep 22, 2025, 10:32 PM

Monday

last one in the family to carry it, really glad I kept it.

sinkingfeeling

(56,439 posts)

9. I've had my married name for 58 years. Been divorced for 55 years. I had to remember where

Reply to applegrove (Original post)

Mon Sep 22, 2025, 11:07 PM

Monday

we got the marriage license and order an official copy for filing for my Costa Rican residency. I was amazed they still had it.

popsdenver

(533 posts)

10. Now there is something

Reply to applegrove (Original post)

Mon Sep 22, 2025, 11:39 PM

Monday

the Dems can be doing.......Alert them to this problem and tell them to get their papers in order so they don't get turned away at the voting place...
AND remind them constantly......

slightlv

(6,619 posts)

11. took me literal months to get my RealID

Reply to applegrove (Original post)

Tue Sep 23, 2025, 12:02 AM

Tuesday

because my marriage certificate had a white out blotch on it. Had to pay to get a new copy (which is a generated copy, complete with white out that couldn't be seen because of the copy paper matching). Which is what I brought up to them at the DMV when they told me what I'd have to do!!!

Thank god I kept at least part of the divorce decree from my first husband. I'd still be trying to get documentation if I hadn't packratted that crap.

Agree with you. Women NEVER change your name! I wish I'd had an inkling about any of this when I first got married back in the "old days"... hell, just live together. You don't HAVE to get married! Easier that way.... 2nd hubby and I never even wore rings. We just celebrated out 36 anniversary together yesterday. And rings are still not important. And that piece of paper is only important to authoritarian govert types. /rant off

Tree Lady

(12,761 posts)

12. I used my passport to show my current name

Reply to applegrove (Original post)

Tue Sep 23, 2025, 12:50 AM

Tuesday

To get real ID.

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